I’d like to see myself as someone who has had a spiritual awakening – especially in the realms of love and romance. There are so many strong people who fall into toxic, abusive, stressful, and just downright terrible relationships. Why is that so? Shouldn’t these strong people be smart enough to know better? Of course, there is a myriad of possible reasons as to why this might be the case.
However, it seems as if strong people are very much well-adapted to working on their own lives and sorting out their own issues that it’s only normal for them to take on the baggage of other people as well. It’s as if it’s almost second-nature for them to be thrust into a relationship that puts them so far outside of their comfort zone.
Of course, I have never been in an abusive, toxic, and draining relationship myself. I am lucky enough to have met someone who always pushed me to learn everything that I needed to learn; to grow in all the ways that I needed to grow as an individual. I have a partner who always pushes me to succeed; someone who never brings me down or holds me back.
Relationships have a way of helping us discover so much more about who we really are on the inside. This is especially true when we have strong personalities. We are strong and brave enough to really take an honest look at ourselves and the lives that we lead. If you happen to be struggling in a relationship that you’re in even though everything around you seems to come so easily, you shouldn’t be too rattled. That’s perfectly normal. Perhaps, you’re just biting off a little bit more than you can chew with your choice of partner and relationship. And here’s the probable reason for it.
You have to know that a relationship is so much more than just the sum of the two individuals who are in it. A relationship is always going to be more than it looks. Strong people are always very independent. You are always going to be very good when you are left on your own. But then, you could suddenly enter a prominent relationship just to discover some very heavy-handed issues that you never knew that you had. Sometimes, you can get into toxic relationships and unearth some very real toxicity that you had living within you. Sure, you are so used to just working your problems out on your own.
But it’s a whole different ballgame whenever your issues are being triggered by a significant other. If you happen to find yourself in this situation, it’s important for you to approach it like you would any other problem or issue in your life. Understand that it is essential to your growth and development as an individual; but this time, within the context of a relationship as well. Remember that your relationship serves a greater purpose; otherwise, it’s just two people who spend a lot of time together. You just have to make sure that the two of you are always looking at the bigger picture as a couple; and that you are always focusing on the many ways that your relationship is making you more than just mere individuals who are in love with one another.
Here are a couple of examples of the many kinds of difficult relationships that strong people attract:
1. Soulmate Relationships
First of all, rid yourself of any preconceived notions of what a soulmate is. No, a soulmate is not that one special person with whom you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. A soulmate is a special person who enters your life at a very particular time in order to help you grow and develop into the person that you need to be. Of course, growth only ever really happens outside of your comfort zone.
And that’s why soulmate relationships can be very challenging – they are constantly pushing you into places and situations that make you uncomfortable. However, these relationships do serve a greater purpose; and they are indeed necessary for evolution. And the thing about soulmates is that its possible for someone to have multiple soulmate relationships in a lifetime.
2. Healing Relationships
Strong people also tend to be healers, and healers tend to attract the wounded and the broken. Strong people are likely to fall into relationships with weaker individuals who have been bent and destroyed by love. You are going to be attracted to the idea of being able to heal a person with your love. However, that isn’t always going to be easy. Being in this kind of relationship is really going to force you to take on the issues and problems of another human being.
Of course, being in difficult relationships may not sound so appealing. But just remember that these relationships can also be the most rewarding. Nothing worth having in life ever comes easily after all.