Marriage is a team effort – it’s two people working together for the best of each other’s lives. It’s about compromise, compassion, love, care, and a lot of effort. Today’s story is about a wife who forgot to pack her husband’s luggage before his business flight – he was angry at her for doing so.
The Story
Reddit user, LydiaBlue____, wrote about her situation on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) to ask the community whether she’s in the wrong. She wrote:
“My husband travels for work every few months. He’s irresponsible with time and counts on others to do stuff for him using the ‘I’m tired’ excuse. He’s the breadwinner by the way!”
“He had a business trip and the day of the trip he saw me carrying the laundry basket and said ‘hey can you pack my bag?’ I asked why he didn’t do it the night before and he said he was up all night playing fortnite. I asked why can’t he pack now and he replied ‘I gotta go catch up with the boys before I leave the country’. I said no and that he should do it himself. He asked why not and I told him that I had to do the laundry then cook for the kids then help them with homework then wash the rugs then clean the messy bathroom then the playing room then work on my garden project. He stood there with his eyebrow lifted up as I went on. I suggested he stays home, pack his own bag and help around til it was time for his trip. He didn’t like my suggestion and complained about missing the boys and wanting to see them one last time and say goodbye before he leaves. He begged but I said no. He then suddenly went inside the bedroom (I thought he was packing*??), grabbed his phone, keys and jacket and rushed out. I just went about my day.”
“It was 5 o’clock and he hadn’t returned yet. I was concerned thinking he had little time and still hadn’t packed yet. He returned home at 6 walked into the bedroom and started panicking asking why his bag wasn’t packed and ready yet. I told him he should ask himself since he stayed gone for hours. He said he was counting on me to pack his bag and even sent me a text hoping I’d eventually do it. I didn’t see the text and even if I did. I never agreed so he shouldn’t have assumed I was going to pack his bag for him. He got upset and started packing. his stuff was all over the place and he couldn’t even find his papers. He was finally done and left.”
“I then got an angry call from him asking if I was happy. I said why what happened and he said he missed his flight…just like ‘I wanted’. He came home and lost it saying I cost him his business trip which supposed to earn him money and made him look unreliable/unprofessional and compromised his work after I refused to do him this small favor and pack his Godd**n bag. I responded that he shouldn’t have hung out with his buddies literally hours before his flight but he said he believed this was done spitefully to get him to sit home with me. I was shocked. No words just shocked face. He called his friend saying his trip didn’t happen..then turned to me and said thanks to ME then proceeded to ask where they were going to meet for dinner.”
“He told me ‘no trip meaning I’ll be home for the next couple of weeks, isn’t that what you wanted?, Great we’ll both now stay home and wallow in misery, God bless!’ Then walked out.”
“AITA? He said I just caused him issues at work. Should I have packed his bag anyway?.”
- “why he couldn’t be on the next flight?.”
“Because since he missed his flight that the company was paying for, he was required to pay for the other flight or not go. He refused to pay saying it wasn’t his fault anyway and decided to not go.”
The Responses
Everyone on Reddit fully supported this wife for what she did. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best comments:
Compensate1995 said:
“NTA, when he said that he’ll miss the boys I thought he meant your kids. When I learned that they were his friends I was stunned. He prioritized a gathering with his friends over packing for his trip. He didn’t need so much time with them. He can’t blame you for that. You do a plethora of chores around the house and he expected you to pack his suitcase for him, it’s plain entitlement. You clarified to him that you aren’t going to do that, but he didn’t pack it anyway.”
bumblingenius wrote:
“So your unreliable, unprofessional husband is annoyed that you didn’t go out of your way to make him seem reliable/professional? NTA, dude sounds like an absolute tool.”
mnchemist commented:
“NTA and also, if you miss a flight the airline in general is pretty good about re-booking you on the next flight. . . It’s not like he had to cancel the whole work trip.”
This post has over 2100 comments, you can read them all on Reddit here.
Our Take
NTA. A happy marriage is a partnership, both individuals work together to help each other. When something goes wrong, they don’t start blaming one another.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this wife’s situation? Let us know in the comments below!
Source: Reddit
You were wrong! He asked and should have done it. Maybe you should try working? You pay the bills? You’re dependent on him and he’s dependent on you as well. Sounds like you don’t have a good marriage. Especially since you air your dirty laundry on line!
Linda you’re a nutcase. She literally told him no because he had time and she didn’t. He went out drinking instead of spending time with his family and packing. This is a million percent his fault, not hers.
So she should enable him to never grow up, take responsibility for HIMSELF. As well as accepting results for HIS actions instead of blaming everyone else and acting like a total spoiled child? HE made the choice to go hang out with friends like a child instead of helping his wife . HE did not act like a decent partner . She is NOT his slave because he makes the money. You would make a great wife for a Narcissist !!
Linda you sound dumb af. He had HOURS to prepare and he prioritized hanging out with friends and leaned on his wife who already was busy and even said NO to make him look like a professional when he’s a GROWN man. You sound so dumb, take the L and gtfo.
Linda you are insane. The jerk was up all the night b4 playing video games and then hung out with his dawgs until it was time to leave.
Hell No….the chump could have been responsible and packed his own bags. She’s his wife and not his Mom.
She is a Mom who is raising their children and running their household. That’s 4 full time jobs in its self.
No, he is a total selfish a**hole!! He went out to have fun with friends instead of staying home to spend time with you and help with the chores and kids. And then blamed you. SMH.
He could have packed his own bags, or even better stay home and help his wife with the family, which would have been the right thing. It appears to me his family wasn’t the important ones in his life , his friends were. Not a good situation!
Dear Reddit (AITAH) in this case, “you” are the AH. This was not about a “partnership”, it was not about “a happy marriage”, it was not about “working together” and it was also not about “things going wrong” and she didn’t “blame him” It was about a spoiled unprofessional, unreliable, self entitled jackazz. Do the math, HE had a business trip, HE had an expectation to make his boss/company look good and he failed. If this were about “working together” he failed at that too. He expected her to make him look professional while he was out boozing with the fellas. He could have taken a later flight, possibly without an upcharge…did he inquire?
A marriage is a partnership, why shouldn’t the man go out and relax with some friend before he enters a stressful business conference. The wife is a home. The garden can be done anyday, he actually asked you to do that for him. She should have done it.
NTA. He is because he doesn’t understand no means no. It doesn’t matter who is saying it. he obviously managed to pack. IDK how doormat, wife and partnership all go together. No one is happy with him being home with an attitude. I can’t believe he missed a 2 week trip for a flight he could have rescheduled. Yes she could have packed but how come the things she had to do became less important. EVERYONE should do their part in a relationship.