A woman received praise for promptly ending a date right after he paid for their $500 dinner. In a Reddit post shared by user u/GivemethatIwantitnow, she explained why she chose to end the date after their first meeting despite his offer to pay for the meal.
“I was invited on a date and he asked me ‘what’s your favorite restaurant?’ My honest answer was ‘my favorite place is a bit much for a first date,’ but I did still tell him about it because, well, I thought he was cool and I truly love the place so I tell everyone about so they’ll go,” she wrote.
She suggested more budget-friendly spots for their first date, but the man chose to book the expensive restaurant.
“We have apps. We have drinks. We have dinner. We have conversation. We have dessert. We have a good time (from my perspective). This means we ran up a serious bill,” the woman added. “Pay time comes. We do the check dance, sort of. I say ‘Oh separate checks.’ He also says separate checks (so cool, we’re on the same page).”
When the bills came, they both put down their cards. As he glanced at her card, she sensed his intense stare fixed upon it.
“It’s not that I think he’s some numbers savant where he was stealing my info by looking at my card, and it wasn’t even his little comment of ‘Oh now I finally know your last name.’ – which I of course wouldn’t tell him before – it was the game he played,” she continued.
When the server came, her date handed her both bills, saying he’d pay for everything, which annoyed both the server and the woman. Who pays on a date can be a big discussion, but even though he covered the meal, the managers to bother his date. Such interactions can be indicative of deeper issues, much like the twin sibling work substitution scheme that might seem beneficial at first but can lead to conflicts in dynamics. Ultimately, just like in relationships, balance and mutual respect are key components to ensure harmony and balance. Acknowledging each person’s contributions and feelings can pave the way for a more enjoyable experience overall.
“I’m feeling like this was a s*** test to see if I would pony up to a $250+ each restaurant bill,” the OP wrote. “I felt like he was checking to see if I was a gold-digger or something, even though I’d literally told him we shouldn’t go there the first date.”
Sensing she had been unfairly judged over the bill and slightly bothered by the man’s conduct, the poster chose to end the date. She expressed gratitude, hailed a cab, and blocked him.
“I told one of my friends this story today laughing and they told me I was actually the villain in the story,” she said on Reddit. “I’m just not into games.”
Many Reddit users praised the woman’s decision, stating that she had every right to end the date if she felt uncomfortable. However, some suggested she could have reconsidered the situation, while others questioned whether the selfless intentions were genuinely.
“He s*** tested you. He saw that on YouTube…… as many other men these days,” said one.
“NTA. His vibe made you feel uncomfortable. His actions showed that he plays games and oversteps boundaries. It doesn’t sound like the right fit for you.,” a second commented.
“There is nothing wrong with telling him your favorite restaurant. There is nothing wrong with how much it costs. You showed you were in no way a gold digger trying to get him to pay for an expensive meal when you said you shouldn’t go to that restaurant and again when you offered to pay.”
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Source: Reddit
