Cheating is one of the most emotionally-traumatizing things one can go through in a relationship. Today’s story is about a wedding that had to be canceled when the soon-to-be-wife found out her groom-to-be was cheating on her.
But the wedding arrangements had already been made – amounting upwards of $20,000, most of which was non-refundable. The distraught woman tried to talk to her ex-fiancee about it, but he wasn’t being supportive or helpful with her finances. So she decided to sell his family heirloom that he had gifted her before the wedding.
This woman posted her story on Reddit’s AITA – a place where people post personal stories about their actions to determine whether they did the right thing. The incredible amounts of supportive comments proved she did the right thing.
The Reddit user, who goes by the username ISoldAFamilyHeirloom, started off her post by saying:
“I (27F) was supposed to get married to my ex-fiance ‘Mason’ (29M) on the 20th of this month. But last week a mutual friend caught him cheating on his ex ‘Kim’ so I called it off. Because it’s so close to our wedding date, I had already booked everything like the venue, catering and everything else. I barely managed to get any money back as it’s mostly non-refundable so in total I’ve lost $20,000.
Last year I took out a loan to cover the costs of the wedding, the longer I take to repay it the more interest it gets. When we first got engaged, Mason agreed to sharing our finances together, meaning had we got married I would’ve been able to pay it off. This was supposed to be in our prenup but because we didn’t get married, it meant he no longer had to share finances.
I asked him if he was still willing to help and told him that I will go into debt if he doesn’t as I can’t repay it alone. He told me ”It isn’t my problem you took out a loan you can’t pay back” and stopped responding after that. When we got engaged, Mason proposed to me with a family heirloom ring belonging to his great grandmother that was worth $25,000. When we canceled the wedding, he told me he wanted the ring back but we never got around to arranging a time he could pick it up.
Because I don’t want to go into debt, I told him that if he didn’t agree to help pay it off (I wanted a lawyer involved) that I would sell the ring. He didn’t reply and ignored the messages however after talking to a mutual friend (Jake) I found out he had actually read the messages and told everyone he didn’t care because I ”wouldn’t do it”. I asked Jake to tell Mason that if I don’t get a message from him in the next 24 hours that I would sell the ring.
Jake told me he again said he didn’t care and didn’t think I would do it. So the next day I sold the ring to an online website and messaged Mason to tell him it had been done and told him he shouldn’t have underestimated me. He started cussing me out, saying I didn’t scare him and that he would be around for the ring later. True to his word, he came to my house demanding the ring and I told him I sold it already and showed him the proof.
He blew up at me, saying I was a petty bitch and that I shouldn’t have sold it because it wasn’t just a ring, it was an heirloom that meant a lot to his family. A lot of my family members think I overreacted and shouldn’t have gone to extreme measures as it will be hard for him to get the ring back, if he even can at all.“
After reading her heartbreaking story, the community was supportive and sent back their thoughts on whether she did the right thing by selling her ex-fiancee’s family heirloom to cover the costs. For context, NTA means “not the a** hole.”
One user by the name of stzulover said:
“Plus, the wedding being cancelled was HIS fault! He had choices and he made bad ones. All on him. Definitely NTA“
Another user, imjusthereforaita, said:
“NTA. You: pay me back or I’ll sell the ring Mason: no. You: sells the ring
Mason: shocked pikachu face
You gave him all the warning in the world. Can’t be TA given that.”
It is deplorable when a beautiful bond between two people has to break because of such a toxic and shallow thing as cheating. We hope this woman finds someone better, and we also think she is NTA.
Source: Reddit – AITA for selling my ex-fiance’s family heirloom when he wouldn’t pay me back for our canceled wedding? by ISoldAFamilyHeirloom
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You did the right thing!
Without hearing your story, I thought that you shouldn’t have done that because it’s a heirloom and you should have respected that. But when you said that you have given him a lot of warning and he still wouldn’t listen, you are justified with your actions. I think the reason that he cheated on you is that you were to kind to him and he thought that you will just simply forgive him after cheating on you. He never really thought that you are decisive and strong-willed to cancel the wedding. He truly underestimated you, bad for him. NTA