A woman made a shocking revelation that she married a gay man, and they are parents to two young kids.
35-year-old Brynn Embley said that she and her husband, Matthew Neilson have great sexual chemistry, and they never faced any issue whatsoever.
According to NY Post, “The mom-of-two describes herself as straight while her husband Matthew identifies as gay or pansexual, admitting he is “more attracted to men than women.”
Speaking to The Sun, Brynn admitted that in the earlier years of her marriage, she used to feel insecure, but not anymore as their relationship has grown stronger with time.
“I used to feel insecure sometimes, but then we decided to be strong together, and our relationship has come a long way. We have something different… what we have, doesn’t depend on physical appearance and chemistry. It’s more than that.”
The Michigan resident further added that in his teenage years, Matthew was attracted to men; however, the church he belonged to didn’t approve of same-sex relationships. So, he dated women in his twenties.
“Despite dating women, he was quite outspoken about his preferences and his identity. He looked straight at me and said ‘Brynn, I’m gay.’ I remember it because he seemed so serious – or like he was looking for some sort of reaction from me,” she said.
“It just wasn’t a huge deal, he was with me, his choice – what else mattered?”
“I already knew that we didn’t have a strong chemical attraction as I had experienced with other boyfriends, but it didn’t really matter to me.”
She added that Matthew was attracted to her when they first dated, and he didn’t let his sexual orientation negate his feelings for Brynn.
“I was really happy that I had a relationship where the selling point was liking and respecting each other as people.”
Speaking to the outlet, 33-year-old Matthew revealed that he broke up with Brynn for some time because of his strong attraction toward other men.
“I don’t think I actually had much emotional bandwidth at that time because I was still trying to deal with my strong feelings about another guy.”
“It didn’t feel fair to either of us to keep up the relationship if I wasn’t sure about that basic attraction.”
The couple said that after breaking up, they remained friends, and that’s when Neilson realized he really had a strong connection with Embley.
“But we trusted that the other elements of our relationship were there, and if that part was more difficult, we could work on it together. There was this mutual feeling of complete and utter happiness – like he was my person.” Said Brynn.
“I still was uncertain about the strength of our sexual connection. I tried to be as open as I could that I wasn’t sure whether I would even have a sexual relationship with her or other women.”
“But I think we both felt reassured that we enjoyed cuddling, holding hands, and kissing,” Matthew added.
The couple noted that they kept their relationship on track with the help of therapy and regular discussions about their chemistry and bonding progress.
“A lot of my previous relationships revolved around that chemical attraction, not having that be the driving force was refreshing.
“I think that liking and matching with a person is so much more central to a long-term relationship,” Brynn told The Sun.
“I had never had been in an intimate relationship, with a man or a woman,” said Matthew. “I didn’t even really know myself how strong my orientation to one gender or another might be.”
“While I was more attracted to men, in general, there had been a few women to whom I was really attracted. Obviously, not a great place for me or most of the women that I was dating.”
“I’ve heard gay men say that they can’t even imagine trying to be sexual with a woman, and I have never felt that way.” He said
The pair eventually tied the knot in December 2017 in Utah and were able to successfully consummate their marriage.
“We share whether we need more if there’s anything the other can do to help make that a better part of our marriage, and so forth,” said Embley.
Brynn and Matthew have been married for four years now and share two daughters together – Guinevere, one, and Amandine, two.
“Our religion teaches that marriage is only between a man and a woman, but we also want our children to be happy and secure in who they are and what or who they choose and are drawn to.”
She further added, “There are also people who assume things about our relationship that are just plain wrong, “I really try not to focus on the negative or let negative comments get me down – but they do, and one way I combat that is by sharing.”
“We are so happy in this quirky, unique, sublime relationship.”
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