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Woman Shares How Her Husband Told Her to “Shush” During Labour

Isla Emmet Isla Emmet | February 21, 2022 | 2 min read

When you’re in a marriage, you’re supposed to care for your spouse and make sure their emotional well-being is protected and healthy. Marriages become beautiful when two people put in the time, effort, emotions, and endless love for one another.

We’ve seen divorce rates sky-rocket throughout the years because one, or both, of the partners, either stop putting in the effort or just don’t care about one another’s emotions. Yet, amidst the challenges, there are countless stories of how they found love unexpectedly, often during times of personal growth or transformation. These serendipitous moments remind us that love can flourish when we least anticipate it, revealing itself in the most surprising circumstances. It serves as a testament to the resilience of the human heart, proving that even in the face of adversity, meaningful connections can emerge.

Today’s story comes from a Facebook Group – That’s It, I’m MF Spouse Shaming. It’s meant for spouses to take out the negativity from within themselves that their toxic marriages left them with. It’s a community meant for people to come and share their bad experiences with over 20,000 members.

In the group, a woman shared her story and what made her instantly think of divorce. And this thought was given to her during a very challenging time – labour!

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She said:

“When he told me to shush during labour. I had a sudden flash of clarity and I knew I would be raising this baby alone because I deserved better.”

“Still took me a year to get to the breakup, but I never forgot that moment of certainty.”

We can’t even begin to imagine the audacity of the husband of this story to say something so disrespectful to his wife during a time when she needs his support and kindness the most.

Having a baby is a beautiful process; a good husband will stand by his wife’s side and let her say whatever she wants to because of the tremendous amount of pain she’s going through. A good husband would never remotely think of saying anything negative – this husband straight up told her to “shush.”

The woman shared that it took her a year after this incident to get through with the divorce, but it had such a significant impact on her that she’ll never be able to forget that moment, and how can you? You’re going through labour, expecting your husband to be there for you, and you’re told to stop making sounds?

We empathize with the woman of this story and are happy that she moved on from such a toxic husband. We hope she finds peace and happiness in her life moving forward!

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Source: That’s It, I’m MF Spouse Shaming


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Maria · May 19, 2022

She is right having a baby is beautiful and painful and your husband should be there to support you and comfort you

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j. · May 21, 2022

that kind of disrespect, lack of empathy towards a women is taught. makes me wonder about his mother and what she had to endure. you got away from this thing you called husband–what is more important is you got your baby away from this ??model of wrong behavior. walk away and stay away–his brand of humanity does not need to be passed on to the next or any generation. good luck– ask for help when you need it, you are not dependent on this bastard for any thing. make your own way in this world.

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Isla is a relationship writer and former counsellor based in London. With a background in psychotherapy and five years of writing about love, attachment, and emotional wellbeing, she brings a calm and deeply empathetic voice to every piece. Isla believes that understanding yourself is the first step to understanding the people you love. When she is not writing, she is hiking the Scottish Highlands or curled up with a good novel and a strong cup of tea.