You don’t have to buy into that “he completes me” narrative that seems to be so popular lately. You don’t have to believe that you need to be with a guy in order for you to feel complete in your life. You need to stop thinking that you need to be in a relationship to actually have a life that is worth living. You really have to focus on building a life of your own that you can be proud of. Live your own life to the fullest – regardless if that life is one that has romantic relationships in it or not. You don’t need to keep on waiting for that special someone to walk into your life before you start realizing just how special your life already is.
You are the one who gets to call the shots. You are the master of your own life. You are the one who gets to decide how your life is going to play out. And you don’t need a guy to give you a sense of validation. You don’t need a guy to add value to your already valuable life. Make the most out of your life by going after your dreams and making time for your passions. You need to be able to be the one who meets your own needs. You need to be the one who sustains your own life. You can’t rely on other people to give you a sense of fulfilment.
You don’t need to have a guy in your life just so you can be confident about facing whatever challenges the world might end up thrusting your way. You need to be able to adapt on your own; and you need to believe in your capacity to get through the trials that this life may contain. You can’t any of your emotional connections for granted. Sure, you aren’t in a romantic relationship – but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have any relationships that need nurturing. You need to be able to nourish your bonds with your friends and family. You need to be able to give and show love to the people who also love you.
Okay; a romantic love is always going to be different. But just because you aren’t in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean that you’re not loved. You are always loved – by the people who are just as deserving of your love and attention. And you need to be able to give these people your time. You need to be able to show them their worth in your life. You need to be able to develop these bonds that you have with them. And once you’re able to do that, you won’t feel the pressures of having to find yourself a man to be with anymore.
You have to remember that your sense of purpose shouldn’t be tied to whether you are in a relationship or not. Yes, you can make it a personal goal to eventually land yourself in a relationship with someone you love. But it shouldn’t be THE goal. It shouldn’t be what defines you. Your legacy shouldn’t be tied to you falling in love with someone else. You need to be able to build that for yourself. You need to be establishing your own purpose. You need to be pursuing your own goals and your own dreams independent of anyone else. You are destined to be so much more than just somebody’s girlfriend.
You really have to know your worth. You must understand that you are great already as is; and that you don’t necessarily need a relationship to add value to your life. Would being in a relationship with someone you love be amazing? Yes, it would. But you shouldn’t take that to mean that you are incapable of living an amazing life while being single. You are able to do so many great things on your own. You are capable of amazing feats without having to rely on anyone else. You are always worthy of greatness on your own.
A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that happiness isn’t a choice. It is. It’s either you choose to let your circumstances bring you down; or you choose to rise above it and find happiness in this world. Sure, you may not be in a relationship right now. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t a million other things in this life that you shouldn’t be happy about. There is always going to be a reason to smile. There is always going to be a reason to be grateful. There is always a reason for you to be happy. And you need to recognize that as early as now. You need to be able to find happiness within yourself and the life that you’re already living.