Don't waste your energy.
You are going to have to get comfortable with the fact that you’re not going to get everything and everyone that you want in life. You will want to achieve so many things in life that are just a little too out of your reach. You are going to want to go after so many dreams that are just downright impossible to reach. You are going to fall in love with someone who you’re just not meant to be with; and that might be the most unfortunate of them all. You were always taught that if you worked hard enough, you could do anything you set your mind to.
But how do you work hard at making another person fall in love with you? You can’t necessarily force another person to fall in love with you, right? That’s impossible, right? You can’t force another person to feel a certain way about you. You can’t compel another person to just fall head over heels for you. You can’t somehow conjure up butterflies to flutter inside a person’s stomach whenever you’re around. Love isn’t ever that simple. Love wasn’t designed to be so easy. Love is never meant to be something that you can just manipulate or bring about out of thin air. And that’s probably where a lot of heartbreak stems from. A lot of people will delude themselves into thinking that they can actually control how love works in their lives.
They set unreasonable expectations for love and for themselves and they end up being severely disappointed as an outcome. When the real weight of love just bogs them down, they feel entirely helpless to the situation. They realize that they don’t have that power to will a person to love them after all. They will realize that sometimes, love isn’t built for everyone no matter how much they want it to be.
And you are probably going to go through that experience too. Maybe it’s a rite of passage for a lot of people. To experience falling in love with a person you just can’t have is both a devastating and a liberating experience. It’s devastating because you realize your own limits as a human being. You understand that you can’t force love even though you really want it to happen. But it’s also liberating in the sense that you have to really learn how to detach yourself from situations that aren’t meant for you. You realize that love is always going to be a struggle, but at least you get to choose how you’re going to cope with this struggle.