Yes, it’s true when they say that relationships are hard. You aren’t always going to be guaranteed a happy ending in your love life, and that’s why you always want to be doing everything that you can to make sure that things go smoothly. However, you shouldn’t make the mistake of trying too hard and misplacing your efforts in pointless endeavors. You don’t necessarily have to work “hard” in a relationship. You just have to work smart. At the end of the day, if you’re putting a lot of effort into the wrong aspects of a relationship, you still aren’t going to be able to make things work.
If you are genuinely interested in making sure that your man doesn’t lose interest in you, then you need to be pulling out all the stops. Men aren’t all that complicated; so you don’t have to worry so much. In fact, it can be almost effortless trying to keep your guy’s interest. You just have to make sure that you know what you’re doing and what you’re getting yourself into. Here are a few ways that you can keep a guy interested in you without even trying.
1. Develop an interest in the things he is interested in.
Show him that you’re open to learning more and more about who he is and what his world is like. Express an interest in the things that he is most passionate about. Try getting into his passions and hobbies. Expose yourself to his favorite music, movies, and other possible interests. He is going to appreciate that effort from you.
2. Show appreciation for everything he brings to the table.
The best way to make sure that a man stays nice to you is to be grateful and appreciative. He isn’t going to feel enticed to be with you if he doesn’t feel like his efforts are being noticed. He’s going to need validation for what he brings to the table. He’s going to want to make sure that his efforts aren’t being done in vain.
3. Be accepting of the fact that he’s going to need his space sometimes.
He is still his own person and he’s going to require his occasional space and privacy every so often. And you’re going to have to be willing to give that to him. Just be confident in the fact that he’s always going to come back to you.
4. Be sure to still maintain a life outside of the relationship.
Don’t give up your sense of individuality just because you’re in a relationship with him. If you completely give up and disregard your life outside of the relationship, it’s going to place too much pressure on him to be your whole world. He isn’t going to want that kind of toxicity in your relationship.
5. Don’t rush him through the various phases of your relationship.
Take things as slowly as necessary. You don’t have to be rushing through the various stages of your relationship. You don’t want him to feel pressured or rushed at all. You might end up scaring him away if you want him to adapt to your pace even though he’s completely uncomfortable with doing so. Learn to meet each other halfway and adjust accordingly.
6. Be sure to let loose and have lots of fun.
Don’t be too uptight. At the end of the day, he’s going to want to have fun with you. And if he’s not having fun in your relationship, he might end up thinking that it’s not a relationship that is actually worth being in.
7. Be as patient and as understanding with home as possible.
He’s going to stumble and fall every so often. He isn’t always going to make the right decision in your relationship. But it will be nice for him to know that you won’t chew his head off for being imperfect.
8. Be your true and genuine self.
He isn’t going to want a fake or idealized version of you. He’s going to want the real you. He is going to want you to stay true to who you are. He will want to get to know the real you; and not some fake fantasy version of you.
9. Let him take care of you.
Allow him to take care of you. Yes, you are a strong and independent woman. And that’s one of the major reasons as to why he really likes you. But men still like to feel needed. So try to make him feel like he actually does hold value in your life by letting him do stuff for you every so often.
10. Love yourself.
At the end of the day, you’re going to make it so much easier for other people to love you if you just learn to love yourself first. When you fall in love with yourself, you are going to be able to highlight the best aspects of your personality. It’s as if your unconsciously giving other people the permission to fall in love with you as well.