10 things happy couples do not think
Relationships are all about coming out of your insecurities and turning your flaws into strengths, together. This article is going to focus on things that happy couples don’t think about and don’t keep these perspectives of each other. For a relationship to work and be strong, you need to understand that relationships (especially pure relationships) are NOT easy in any way, good relationships have a lot of challenges and never come easy. If you feel like your relationship is fading or is going through an uncontrollable rough patch, you need to check these out. Let’s begin.
10. They Should Fix All Of MY Problems
Being in a relationship does not mean it’s the end of all of your troubles, it’s actually another challenge for you to surpass. I’ve said this in most of my articles, you just can not be in love with someone or care for someone unless you truly love yourself and care for yourself first. A relationship isn’t only about “you” or “your problems”. It’s about a mutual life and mutual problems which should be fixed together rather than one person imposing them on the other.
So no, being in love with someone in no way means that your problems will be solved, you need to have enough faith in yourself that you can fix them yourself first before you ask them for help. A confident personality leads to amazing things and self confidence is slowly becoming more and more rare each day. Don’t let yourself be one of those people, you’re stronger and better than them.
9. They’re All Mine
If you think that being in a relationship means you two should be the center of each other’s universe, you’re wrong. Yes, being in a relationship puts you in a very important place in someone else’s life but it in no way means you can take control of their lives. A happy and strong relationship is all about loving each other’s past, enjoying each other’s present and looking forward to each other’s future. You can not appear too clingy or too possessive with your significant other or you’ll just seem weak.
Nobody likes to be micromanaged, we all need our own little personal space every now and then and we shouldn’t take it to heart when our partners need their own little space too.
8. It’s Going To Be Very Easy
I mentioned this in the beginning of this article, the strongest of relationships are often the hardest. If you think your relationship is going to be or should be a walk in the park, you need to change your perception. Nothing, NOTHING in life comes easy. Nothing worth having, that is. If you start facing difficult situations in your relationship, face them head on and conquer them with a smile on your face. Then and only then can you be completely content with yourself and your partner.
No good love story is without its fair share of heroic moments or traumatic situations that are taken over. Have faith in your partner and trust that you’ll get through it, that this too shall pass and never let go of their hand.
7. I’ll Do Anything To Be Loved
Another point I keep repeating is that you are an individual, you have an amazing personality and you should never change your amazing self for anyone or anything. You simply can’t start thinking that you need to change yourself or do whatever it takes to be loved by someone. True love finds its way, true love will come to you when you least expect it. The only thing you need to pay attention to is how much you love yourself and your amazing individuality. The person who’s meant for you will love you because of who YOU are not who you CAN be!
6. Forgiveness Is For The Weak
The people who say revenge is sweet are actually the most bitter of people. Forgiving someone is one of the most fulfilling things in the world, it’s one of the most stress-relieving things I’ve personally experienced in my life. Going into a relationship with someone is one of the most life-altering things you can do to yourself and you need to be a pure person inside if you want a happy life ahead. Being pure means carrying no grudges against even the most brutal of people you might have been with.
Forgive everyone, even the ex who cheated on you for no reason. Because you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life and the person you’re with now doesn’t deserve it either. Forgive and forget, live by these words!
5. I Can Be Busy Too
Sure you can, but you should have thought of that before you made a lot of promises to someone to devote all of your time and attention to them. Now, I’m not saying you definitively can’t be busy ever; I’m saying you need to remember your priorities. For example, your significant other should be able to understand the reason for you to be busy and away from them. If you’re in a business meeting, it’s perfectly normal. If you’re out with friends and you hide it from them and tell them you’re busy, you’re just asking for trouble.
If you have so many personal life priorities, you should be single. Relationships are for the selfless.
4. They Need To Change For Me
Nobody should change for you, you should learn to love them and live with their pros and cons. Just like you’re an individual, so are they. Like I said, relationships are for the selfless; you can’t be happy with your partner or even yourself if you constantly expect them to change for you. Love them for who they are so they can do the same in return.
Don’t waste your time and label it as “fixing” them, you’re not fixing them you’re just making them go through the feelings of being disapproved or rejected and that is one of the worst feelings I can think of. Love and accept each other.В
3. All Relationships Work Out
This is one of the things I’ve come across a lot since I started this page, people come to me and ask me why their relationships aren’t working out. This is one of the bitter truths of life, all relationships don’t work out all happily in the end. Some people are just not meant for each other no matter how much they try to be. It’s always better to be alone than to be with someone who will make you feel like you were better off being alone! And most people learn that the hard way.
Just save yourself the agony and the pain and learn to live with the fact that the person who you thought was person for you just wasn’t.
2. I Shouldn’t Be Expressive
I say this over and over again, you can never be expressive enough with your significant other. Being expressive is one of the key components of every healthy and happy relationship. You should NEVER think that you should keep some feelings to yourself if they make you seem weak in front of your partner; it’s all in your head and you need to let it out and be free. Be as expressive as you can and you will never find yourself in a difficult situation with your partner.
1. I Shouldn’t Compromise So Much
Relationships are all about sacrifices and compromises. But this part only works if both sides do it, you can’t be the only one compromising and neither can you be the side to never compromise. You are sharing a life with someone, it’s not going to be easy and difficult decisions will have to be made and negative habits will need to be left behind. Sacrifice for your happiness and for the greater good.
That’s about it for today’s article, hope you guys learned from it and will be in healthier relationships because of it. My one and only goal when I write these articles is to help you guys strengthen your relationships and make you happier with your significant other, hope that goal is met with this one too. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive! Ciao.