We, as humans, are all plagued by insecurities – whether they’re about us or about someone else, they’re everywhere. And while most of us try our best to get rid of those insecurities, a lot of people let their insecurities get the best of them.
Insecurity is one of the top reasons for relationship problems; they don’t lead to anything cute or interesting – they only cause problems. Today’s Reddit story is about insecure men and how they let their insecurities get their best.
Reddit user Morganlovesu posted the following on AskWomen:
“Women of Reddit, what are your insecure men horror stories?”
And within a few days of this post going up, it received hundreds of replies from women sharing horror stories of men being insecure. Here are 13 of the best responses:
1. SleepFlower80 shares how she got dumped because her boyfriend was insecure:
“He dumped me because he believed I had slept with 2 more people than him (I hadn’t told him my real number in the first place, it’s no one else’s business, but it was actually a lot higher than 2 more). He stewed on it for 3 years before dumping me because he felt like less of a man – he’s the man so his number should have been higher. He asked me back out six months later because he had slept with 3 people, making his number higher than mine and making me acceptable to date again.”
“What he failed to realise is that I wasn’t celibate for that six months. His additional 3 didn’t even cover my original, true number, never mind cover the additional people I slept with in that six months. Idiot. A man asking me that question now is a huge red flag and I don’t entertain men like that. I back out immediately.”
2. hileo98 shared a heartbreaking story:
“Today is my late mothers birthday so this question is very timely.”
“I got married very young and my mother died of cancer shortly before our one year anniversary (I was 19 going on 20).”
“My now ex husband stated that I chose my mother over him since I spent so much time with her while she was dying. He also would get upset with me for grieving and crying in the year after she died.”
3. natsuhime wrote about a very insecure boyfriend:
“I had an ex who was pissed at me at a Bath & Body Works because I wanted to get a musky, cologne scented candle. His stance was that it was basically cheating because it ‘smelled like a man.’ And yes, he was serious.”
4. CinematicHeart shared a Halloween story:
“When I was 20 I was dating a man for about 4 or 5 months. We were going out to a halloween party with a bunch of his friends. He and I were roughly the same height. Not thinking about it I wore heels. I met him at the party and he told me I had to change my shoes. I didn’t have other shoes with me and I was an hour from home since this was on his college campus. He wouldn’t talk to me the entire night and when we got back to his place he screamed at me for an hour that I was an embarrassment. All because he was insecure about his height. I didn’t care about his height. I dated two other men who were my height. The one stood on tippy toes the one time i saw him while wearing heels. The other never gave a sh*t about height and was confident. Guess which one I stayed friends with.”
5. badadvicefromaspider shared a strange story of insecurity:
“I drew a picture of a flower on a bar napkin and gave it to my then-boyfriend, and he glared at me and said ‘when you do stuff like this it makes me feel so small'”
6. Kemokiro shares a truly sad story:
“Threw a tantrum when I started pondering going to grad school because he couldn’t be with a woman with more education. The amount of contempt I developed for him during that despicable display of insecurity cannot be described. But, we’re the weak ones, umm k.”
7. thanarealnobody had a boyfriend who loved to boast:
“My first relationship was with a guy that felt the need to talk about the hot models and actresses he had had $ex with before me.”
“I literally never asked and it wasn’t relevant to anything but he still showed me these girls Instagrams as if he wanted a medal for how much of a stud he was.”
“Anyway, the guy was terrible with money and always running to mommy and daddy for cash handouts, never gave me an orgasm, was a high school dropout, balding by 23 and already had a drinking problem.”
“I saw why none of these hot women were still with him.”
“Also upon further inspection half of the girls weren’t even following him back on social media. He just made himself look like an utter fool.”
8. Ms_Rarity shared a divorce story involving a lot of insecurity:
“Was in the process of divorcing my husband. He happened to be in the room when I got a phone call with a job offer. I told him the salary, which wasn’t glamorous but was a good $12K-$17K more than he’d ever made within any year in the marriage, plus Cadillac benefits (none of his jobs had ever carried benefits).”
“What he should have said: ‘Congratulations!'”
“What he actually said: ‘Well I’m gonna be making TWICE THAT MUCH!'”
“His sh*tty, commission-only job with no benefits definitely was not about to start paying twice as much as my new salary.”
“He came to divorce court bragging that he makes twice my salary. So the judge set his child support payments really high based on his fictitious self-proclaimed earnings.”
9. cleaning-meaning got out of a very toxic relationship:
“My ex boyfriend!”
“Refusing to take care of his own child when I was around because that’s women’s work. Specially if any of his buddies were around.”
“Treating me like a maid when his friends were around.”
10. MsClementine415 shared a simple yet very common story of insecurity:
“Didn’t like that I made more money than him.”
11. petite-crevette, too, got out of a highly negative relationship:
“When I broke up with my ex he spent months trying to get me back. Letters, flowers, a proposal, reaching out to my friends and family, to name just a few of his tactics. He was abusive and manipulative so it took me just as long to put my foot down and tell him to fu** off for good. When it was finally clear that I wasn’t going to come back to him, he flipped from ‘I love you you’re perfect I would do anything for you’ to ‘I never loved you’ in a heart beat. I was the first time he ever was told ‘no’ and didn’t get his way so he was wildly insecure and tried to control the situation.”
12. Morganryann shares another horrific story:
“Not letting me see any of my friends unless he was with me and he didn’t like them so it was always awkward.”
“He wouldn’t take me to see my mom ( I didn’t drive then) so I went 1 1/2 years without seeing her except for twice when I snuck to see her once I started to drive. I dated him from 20-25. 5 years of bullsh*t”
13. spellets apparently had a boyfriend who didn’t like colorful shoes:
“My ex broke up with me because my shoes were too bright a color (they were neon orange sneakers) and they would attract too much attention from other men..”
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Source: Reddit
