18 Things You Never Realized Are Slowly Destroying Your Relationship
Are you slowly destroying your relationship?
1. You don’t express yourself whenever you’re feeling upset.
Communication is always important in a relationship. If you feel upset, you should always be honest enough to make that admission. You should trust that your partner is mature enough to want to actually discuss things with you even if it’s difficult.
2. You spy on your partner and you invade your partner’s privacy.
You should always learn to respect one another’s privacy. You have to be able to trust each other. You can’t be browsing through your partner’s call and message history and expect things to be okay.
3. You would rather look at your phone than at your partner on a date.
You’re on a date with the person you love most in the world. Stop looking at your phone and live in the moment. You will have plenty of time to check your social media feeds and respond to your messages later on.
4. You make your partner shell out the cash every single time.
Your relationship should never be parasitic in nature. Yes, while it is nice for you to pay for your partner, there should still be a give-and-take. It can’t always be one-sided in a relationship. It’s always going to be a two-way street.
5. You give in to your partner’s sexual advances even when you’re not up for it.
You should never have to feel compelled to always say yes to your partner. That’s just brewing up to be an unhealthy relationship. You should be able to say no when you want to say no.
6. You spend every single waking moment together.
Don’t spend every single second of the day together. You should both still have your individual lives even if you’re in a relationship with one another. Also, it’s true when they say that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
7. You rarely spend any time with each other at all.
Are you even a couple? On the other side of the coin, just because you shouldn’t be spending all your time with each other doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be spending time with each other at all. You should make it a point to strike a healthy balance in that aspect.
8. You manipulate your partner to bending at your will.
There should be no room for manipulation in any relationship. You should both be acting on your own individual devices. You can’t be manipulating each other and treating one another like tools or objects.
9. You control who your partner gets to spend time with.
Don’t be so controlling. Your partner has a fully functional mind that is capable of operating on its own. You can’t bar your partner from hanging out with people just because it makes you uncomfortable. However, you can talk things out and find a compromise.
10. You flirt with other people without your partner knowing.
You shouldn’t be flirting with other people at all. You should be committing yourself to your partner and to the relationship that you are already in. There’s no reason for you to still be playing the field.
11. You deliberately flirt with other people just to make your partner jealous.
If you feel like you still have to make your partner jealous just to feel better about yourself, then there are some serious issues in your relationship. Making your partner jealous won’t do anything to solve the situation at all. It doesn’t make the relationship better.
12. You settle for having repetitive dates.
You have grown complacent in the way that you go about your relationships. You’ve fallen in a rut and you’re perfectly fine with staying there. You can’t afford to not shake things up every once in a while. You risk having the relationship becoming boring and stale.
13. You speak to your partner rudely.
Always use kind and respectful language whenever you’re talking to each other. You don’t want to be using harsh and hurtful language. You will only end up saying things that you will regret in the future.
14. You stop making an effort to make yourself look good for your partner.
You should still always try to make your partner fall more and more in love with you every day that you’re together. Physical attraction still plays a big role in your relationship no matter how long you’ve been with each other.
15. You tell your partner constant lies.
When you constantly lie to your partner, then you are betraying your partner’s trust on a consistent basis. You should always be willing to face the truth as a couple because that’s what mature people do. You can’t expect your lies to never catch up to you in the long run.
16. You consistently break promises to your partner.
Never be a promise breaker. You should always make sure that you walk the talk. It can’t all be just about the words that you spew out of your mouth. You should be able to back it up with concrete actions. Don’t betray your partner’s trust by breaking promises. Don’t be a reason for your partner’s disappointment.
17. You always only want to hang out in group settings.
If it makes you uncomfortable to be alone with your partner, then you’re going to have to suck it up. You still have to learn to interact with your partner in a more intimate setting. You can’t just always resort to having group hang-outs to escape the awkwardness of being alone.
18. You hide your partner from your friends.
You must never hide your partner. You can’t make your partner feel like you’re ashamed of the relationship. You must always be willing to integrate your partner into your personal social circles.