8 Common Mistakes You Can Make In A New Relationship
1. You let yourself fall in love a little too quickly.
You have to keep your guard up when the relationship is still fresh and new. You don’t want to be allowing yourself to just fall so freely for someone. You can’t let your feelings get the best of you. You don’t want to be recklessly falling in love. You have to remember that even though things are starting off great, there is still room for discovery – and bad things may have yet to surface. So learn to take things as they come. Don’t go all-in right away. Be patient and let the love grow over time – the way that it’s really designed to be.
2. You pour out all of your emotions too soon.
This is going to be the quickest way to drive your partner away from you. You have to keep in mind that just because you’re in a relationship together doesn’t automatically mean that the both of you are operating on the same wavelengths as a couple. You have to take into consideration that your partner might not be so receptive of your strong expressions of love. So just learn to be patient. Gauge where your partner is in relation to you – and act accordingly. Behave yourself.
3. You rush things on a physical level.
Don’t be so quick to jump into the sack with your partner especially if it still makes either one or both of you uncomfortable. Be respectful of one another’s boundaries. Just because you are in a relationship together doesn’t mean that the both of you have to give in to the pressures that are being imposed on you. You should both only engage in physical relations when the both of you really feel like you’re up for it. Otherwise, there should be no harm and waiting for the time to be right.
4. You let yourself get blinded from all of the red flags.
Don’t let your feelings consume you. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Remember that you’re in the early phases of your relationship and you’re still getting to know one another. You should still be looking out for potential red flags and bad signs to keep yourself protected. Sometimes, love has a way of blinding us from the things that could potentially hurt us. And you don’t want that for yourself. You don’t want that to happen to you. You don’t want to get blindsided by something you could never see coming because you were too reckless with your love.
5. You become too needy and clingy towards your partner.
Don’t be that person. Don’t be the kind of partner who is virtually incapable of functioning properly outside of a relationship. Don’t scare your partner away by making them feel like you would just collapse without them in your life. You can’t be too needy in a relationship. That’s just too much pressure for your partner to handle. Learn to always maintain your independence and self-reliance so that your partner doesn’t lose any respect for you.
6. You bring up the topic of your exes.
It’s okay to talk about your exes with your partner when you’re really DEEP into the relationship. This is a topic that is reserved for couples who have been together for quite a while. You don’t want your new partner to be thinking that you’re still hung up on your ex by bringing them up during conversations, do you? Just avoid all talks of exes for now and just focus on yourselves as a newly minted couple.
7. You stalk your partner on social media.
Don’t obsess over your partner. Social media stalking might be just a symptom to an even greater problem. You have to give your partner some space to breathe in the early phase of your relationship. If not, you risk driving them away by suffocating them too much. So while it may be good to be giving your partner a lot of attention, there is always such a thing as giving too much of a good thing. Take it easy on the social media engagement.
8. You air out all the intimacies of your relationship to friends and family.
Remember that the early stages of a relationship involve a lot of self-discovery. You are both still trying to figure out who you are as individuals in your relationship – and what kind of collective identity your relationship has as a whole. In that process, it’s important to keep things as private and as intimate as possible.
You don’t want to be projecting your relationship out into the public even though you don’t necessarily have things figured out yet. And in general, it’s always better to keep things to yourselves when everything is still fresh, new, and unfamiliar to the both of you. You don’t want any kind of unnecessary attention or chatter to surround your relationship. That is a lot of unwanted pressure that could prove to be harmful.
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