This might be something that has already happened to you in the past; you meet a guy that you really like and things start off great between the two of you. You go on a few dates and there’s a genuine connection there. You know that there’s something real that you can really build on. There’s some serious potential here and you don’t want to waste it. Things are going so well and you can’t actually believe the luck that you’re having with the beginnings of this relationship. But then suddenly, everything changes. You start to notice that he is making a lot of excuses to not hang out with you and be with you.
He suddenly starts to distance himself from you bit by bit and it’s really puzzling you. Something is wrong here; and you just can’t place your finger on it. You thought that everything was going so well on your end; and you just can’t believe why things would take such a drastic turn in this manner. You don’t understand what’s happening. And you so desperately want things to go back to the way that they were. Why is he suddenly acting like he’s too busy for you all of the time? Why is he slowly t to disappear from your life? You want to know whether you’ve done something wrong because you want to be able to fix it.
So how exactly do you approach this situation? Do you just go outright and ask him? Or do you really want to risk being made a fool out of? Before you do anything rash, it’s important for you to just sit down and take some time to think about what could have caused him to slowly exclude himself from your romantic narrative. If you’ve been in this position before, then good; you probably have a fair assessment of what’s going on and what you need to do to change things. But if you’re new to this kind of exnce, then you probably feel so lost right now and you don’t know where to start. That’s exactly what this article is for.
It’s going to give you a good idea of where you stand in your current relationship; why things have gotten so bad, and what exactly you can do to put things back on track. So before anything else, you might want to consider the possible reasons as to why he’s suddenly starting to act so cold towards you.
1. He got weirded out by something that you said or did.
Hey. Don’t underestimate the impact that a single word or gesture can have on an entire relationship. You might have just said or done something that completely weirded him out. It happens. If you assume that this is the case, there isn’t really any harm in asking him outright. Go ahead and reach out to him if you’re really serious about saving this relationship. You don’t have to be shy about it either. It takes a lot of humility to make a relationship work; and you have to be to confront the parts about yourself that he’s not going to like. At the end of the day, you really have nothing to lose.
2. He found out that you don’t really have the same idea of commitment.
Maybe you were already looking way towards the future. Maybe you were already talking about really settling down with someone and having kids. May you gave him the feeling that you were looking to be with someone you can spend the rest of your life with. And maybe he’s just not ready for that. Maybe he isn’t really looking to commit to anythingnyone too serious just yet. Maybe he’s just looking for something a little more casual and you happened to scare him off.
3. He has so many things going on in his life at the moment.
Maybe he’s just too busy at work. Maybe he’s dealing with some personsues at home. You have to consider the possibility that the reason he’s acting so cold has nothing to do with you at all.
4. You acted too needy and aggressive towards him.
Remember that there is such a thing as giving a person TOO much attention. Maybe you were just acting a little overly eager in your relationship and that’s why you scared him off. There are some men out there who don’t respond well to needy or aggresbehavior. Maybe he wanted to work a little more for your love; but you just happened to make things way too easy for him.
5. He needed some time to himself.
Maybe he’s just not in a place where he’s ready to share his life with another person. Perhaps, he’s still caught up trying to figure things out on his own; and he’s not readive up his independence just yet. This is unfortunate, but it’s something you’re just going to have to learn to respect.