It’s time for both of you to settle down together.
One of the most difficult parts of a relationship is the mastery of timing. Timing plays a very important part in shaping how our relationships turn out. Everyone is familiar with the phrase the right love at the wrong time, because it tends to happen a lot. We are all caught in love affairs where everything seems perfect and magical, but the timing and situation never allows us to see our relationships come full circle. One should never underestimate the role of timing in determining how a relationship moves forward as well.
Couples are always struggling with their timing. When is the right time to ask someone out on a date? When is the right time to have that talk about where you are in the relationship? When should you bring up the topic of moving in together? Is it the proper time to ask for her hand in marriage? Is it the right time to discuss the prospect of having kids in the future?
These are all very important questions in a relationship and they all concern time. You never want to be moving too fast or too slow in a relationship. You don’t want to have your partner either burned out or just plain disappointed at your inaction. You always have to be able to gauge the situation appropriately and react accordingly. You cannot afford to not think things through especially in regards to timing.
So the question is, how do you perfect the timing in a relationship? Well, there’s no definitive answer. Only you can know for sure because you’re the one who knows the ins and outs of your relationship. However, there are some signs that you can heed to help you make your decision. For instance, in the matters of settling in with each other, there are plenty of signals your partner could be sending you (whether consciously or not). Here are 5 signs that your partner is ready to settle with you:
1. Your relationship has no drama caused by outsiders.
You’re past all the high school drama that most young relationships have tendencies for. You no longer get fits of jealousy or doubt when it comes to each other. You don’t have to worry about issues like infidelity or dishonesty because you know it’s just virtually impossible. When people gossip about you, it no longer affects you because you know what’s really going on.
There’s just no amount of drama in the world that can rock your boat right now. Your relationship is solid and it’s practically unstoppable at this point. Any problems that may arise in your relationship in the future will only be of your own doing. But these are problems that your love can always overcome.
2. Both of you feel like you don’t have enough time in the day to spend with each other.
Not to say that you’re not spending enough time with each other; it just feels like that’s the case. You want to spend as much time with each other as possible because you know that time spent together is a memory waiting to happen. You value each other’s company because there’s a level of ease and comfort there that you just can’t find with anyone else. You wish you could add just a few more hours on the clock every day for each other. Even the thought of spending an entire lifetime together doesn’t feel like it’s going to be enough for you.
3. Your partner finds it easy to open up to you.
If your partner happens to be telling you things that have never been mentioned to other people before, then you’re practically in. That means your partner has gotten to a point in the relationship where you’re both the same person already. That means that your partner is comfortable with sharing the innermost secrets and darkest parts of life with you because you make it so easy.
4. You share similar life goals and values.
There’s no point in getting into a relationship when neither of your life goals or values coincide. It’s always important that you talk about your dreams and aspirations together. What’s more important is that your eventual plans will mesh together to allow each other some space in your prospective lives together. The best kinds of couples are those who are able to envision their futures clearly. They know that their future is composed of one in partnership with each other and there’s no getting around it.
5. The both of you are comfortable with being your true selves whenever you’re around each other.
You’re practically one person at this point. You are the true embodiment of what it means to have a soulmate. You are perfectly fine with showcasing your imperfections and flaws with each other because you know that the kind of love that you share is unconditional. You know that nothing you could ever reveal about yourself is going to destroy your relationship. You know that you are loved despite your shortcomings and your vulnerabilities.
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