You should never have to tolerate physical abuse.
Forgiveness is going to be key in any relationship. No one man or woman is ever going to be perfect. We are all normal human beings who are going to stumble and fail at a few things in life. That’s natural. Our imperfections are what make us human and they’re what make love so much more beautiful. As they say, it’s ordinary to love the beautiful. But it’s so beautiful to love the ordinary. And that’s what we all are. We are ordinary people who are prone to mistakes and imperfections. That’s why it’s important for couples to always practice patience, understanding, and forgiveness when dealing with their relationships.
Your partner isn’t necessarily going to do the right thing a hundred percent of the time. You have to be able to make space for some mistakes and you have to be able to love your partner despite the imperfections. However, there are some mistakes that are just plain unforgivable and you have to be able to draw the line. Yes, it’s important to practice maximum patience and understanding in the relationship but there are just things that you shouldn’t have to tolerate. You have to be a forgiving human being in a relationship but that doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover. If you are a little too lenient, you risk turning yourself into a victim of an abusive and manipulative relationship.
Remember that you don’t have to put up with terrible behavior on a constant basis in a relationship. If things get too much for you to handle, it’s okay for you to call it quits and walk away. You shouldn’t have to feel bad about deciding to do so. You shouldn’t have to feel ashamed about ending an abusive and manipulative relationship. So how do you draw that line? How do you delineate between the tolerable and the unforgivable behavior? How do you know when it’s time to be patient and forgiving? And how do you know when to put your foot down and actually demand for better?
How do you know if you’re fed up and you have to walk away from this toxic relationship that you’re in? You were always taught that you have to fight to make relationships work, but then again, there are just some relationships that aren’t worth saving. And that’s what you have to think about when you’re assessing the state of your relationship. While no two relationships are ever the same, there are still some commonalities that can apply to a vast majority of relationships. But it’s important to preface these points by stressing that you know your relationship best and ultimately, the decision on whether or not to end things will rest with you.
No one else can make that decision for you. And if you find yourself having trouble with coming up with a decision on your own, then maybe you can consult this article to help you with how you’re going to move forward. These are some common things that you should never have to tolerate in a strong and healthy relationship. Physical abuse is something that shouldn’t be present in any degree in any relationship. No human being should get the right to physically harm another person especially when they’re supposedly in love with each other.
1. You should never have to tolerate emotional abuse.
Abuse doesn’t always have to take a physical shape. Abuse can also take its form through emotional manipulation. You shouldn’t have to put up with a partner who uses your own feelings and emotions against you.
2. You should never have to tolerate remorseless infidelity.
Cheating is bad in a relationship, but for some people, a single offense is forgivable and tolerable. But when the cheating is constant, that’s when you really have to draw the line. You shouldn’t be afraid to demand full loyalty and commitment from your partner.
3. You should never have to tolerate constant dishonesty.
Lying is bad in a relationship. But you can always give a lie here and there from your partner especially when it doesn’t necessary have grave consequences. But when the lying becomes too rampant and consistent in the relationship, then you might want to reassess your romance.
4. You should never have to tolerate a reluctance to claim responsibility.
Part of being a mature adult is being able to own up to your actions. A real mature individual would willingly take responsibility for anything that they do. You shouldn’t have to endure a partner who never wants to be accountable for anything.
5. You should never have to tolerate unreasonable jealousy.
Jealousy is tricky. In one sense, it’s good to have a partner who would never want to lose you to another. But it’s a different thing entirely when the jealousy comes from a place of irrationality and paranoia.
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