Online dating can be a very scary place.
We do not intend to imply that couples who found each other online are not real; people do meet online and find better partners than they would ever have in real life, but the increasing online-dating culture is idealistic.
There is no harm in connecting with people on the internet but especially looking for someone to date is not a very cool idea, as common as it has become. It is, indeed, convenient and saves a lot of trouble of actually going out and socializing but it is not the best idea, certainly not because everyone is doing it.
Here are 6 reasons why we think online-dating can be terrible.
Let’s face it; more than half of the profiles on dating sites or other socializing sites are either fake ones or handled by liars who are ready to make up all sorts of lies to look good to the person they are trying to impress.
Half of them are either just scam willing to waste your time and the other half do not really put any thought into the future meetings, they only seek to impress. Women and men, both, tell lies but about different things that turn out to be trust-breaking in the future.
Low salary or more weight are not what disappoint people, it is the lying that turns them off. So potential liars are the first reason why online-dating can be a terrible experience.
Men, more than women, come to dates expecting sex the same night. In fact, that is all they come to the date for. It does not even matter if your online dating profile is in the looking for something serious’ category, they will hit you and up and bluntly ask you to come in for coffee at their place, because you did not clearly write on your profile no sex on first dates’?! – Continue reading on next page
Imagine being excited for a date with a guy you met online only to be turned off when he asks you when you would like to do it. Just imagine.
Women are recorded to have had terrible experiences with sex hunters they met online and they have been the reason for many to stop looking for dates on the internet.
You Don’t Look Anything Like Your Pictures:
This is the biggest disappointment people with no patience and maturity come across when they meet an online personality in real life. Of course everyone looks different from their pictures. That has to be the rule no.1 of online-dating: do not expect the exact same face and personality.
And if you don’t want your glass to be shattered, try video chatting before face to face meeting to save time because listening someone say goodbye just when you said hi can be heartbreaking and rude.
We build our own image of people we see online and expect them to be just like it and when they are a tad bit different from their online self, we sit back and sigh over our fate as if their face says everything about the connection they can build with humans.
The Long Distance Thing:
Imagine you liked a guy who lives in Canada while you live in USA; not even in a different state but in Canada. You go bonkers over not being able to meet him and it kills you because he seems like the perfect guy.
You agree to take on a long-distance relationship but for how long? There have to be some meetings, otherwise it is almost impossible to keep track of each other’s lives. What if they have another online friend just like you?
What if they are not able to reach their phones all the time? Just imagine the pain of knowing someone so good exists but in a land far away.
It’s Luck With Looks:
Online dating sites are usually scrolled through in search for attractive women with interesting hobbies and tall men with high salary jobs. Those with original and not the perfect profiles are not paid heed to very often. – Continue reading on next page
This culture favors people who are attractive over those who are humorous and promotes materialism and lust as far as we have observed. A guy with average looks and average job but great love for family and friends will be overlooked for a guy with abs and a skiing hobby, most probably.
And a woman who looks like Angelina Jolie and likes shopping will be preferred over any other woman who likes reading and also does humanitarian work.
That is not us differentiating between different kinds of people; that is the reality of dating sites told as it is. To go again, great matches do take place on the internet but more often than not, it is a disappointment.
We Try Not To Be Ourselves:
This is the worst possible thing about online dating. The fear of not being good enough for the person with interesting hobbies makes us fake ourselves. We try to be someone we are not and not only does that make us insecure but can be a problem when our real self comes out.
We fail to see that being the perfect person for a date is not the goal; being yourself is what you need to do and see if the other person likes it.
Online dating infuses the fear of being alone, too, as if it is the worst possible thing, as if there will never be anyone for us outside of the websites.
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