Face facts; he isn’t ready for a relationship.
Just learn to face the truth. Not everyone is going to be cut out for relationships. There are plenty of people in the world who just dive into relationships even though they aren’t really ready for the responsibilities that come with it. There is a certain level of maturity that has to be attained before people can actually be ready for relationships. Some people just haven’t grown up enough to fully understand what it takes to make a relationship work. Some other people may already have that maturity, but they may not be emotionally ready for relationships.
If you happen to be in a relationship with someone who you feel like isn’t really ready, then you should seriously think about the status of your relationship. It’s going to be very difficult for you to sustain a relationship with your man if he isn’t ready for it. In the end, you will only end up feeling disappointed and hurt. You need to be able to get with people who are actually ready to take care of you and to love you. Otherwise, the relationship will never reach its full potential.
So what do you do when you’re not entirely sure if your man is ready to have a relationship with you? You have to be able to look at the signs and discern for yourself. There are some common red flags that indicate that a person isn’t really ready for a relationship yet. If your man happens to be exhibiting some of these red flags, then do yourself a favor and confront him about it. If you are able to find a compromise moving forward, then great. If he isn’t going to budge, then maybe you should reconsider the entire relationship as a whole.
1. He wants to be with you, but he doesn’t want to put a name on it.
Run away if he’s the kind of guy who says that he wants to be with you but is unwilling to commit. You should only be with men who are willing to actually call your relationship what it is: a relationship. If he starts with all this nonsense about not wanting to put a label on your relationship, then he’s really just not ready to be with you at the moment.
2. He just went through a horrible breakup.
One other big sign that he’s just not ready to be in a relationship with you is if he’s visibly bearing some emotional baggage from a previous relationship. Never be a person’s rebound. You’re just going to get yourself hurt by doing so. Make sure that any man you’re going to be in a relationship with is completely over any bad breakups and previous relationships.
3. He just had a baby with someone else.
Kids are tricky business. While it’s typically a bad thing to date someone who already has a child, you really have to consider the timing of the situation. It’s always a bad idea to date someone who has JUST HAD A BABY with someone else. You don’t want the emotional turmoil and drama that comes with that whole ordeal.
4. He isn’t doing so well with his career.
Don’t date a man who doesn’t have his life together. If they aren’t ready to just fix their own personal lives, then they certainly aren’t ready to be in a relationship with you. If you happen to be dating a man who is just struggling with his career and his finances, maybe you should give him the space to fix himself first. Being in a relationship will only add more stress and distractions to his hectic life.
5. He still goes to his mom to make his decisions for him.
Momma’s boys are very difficult to be with. They might be overly dependent and immature. If your man is still the type of guy who goes to his momma before he can make a decision in life, then he really isn’t ready to be your man just yet. Being in a relationship with him would be like being in a relationship with his mom.
6. He has outrageous fits of jealousy.
A jealous man is not a joy to be with. Sure, it can be endearing to know that a person wants to take care of you and wants to shield you from harm. But it’s a separate issue entirely to have a man who is possessive, territorial, and just downright paranoid. If he’s too insecure about your relationship, then he’s the type of man who has to grow to become more secure about his manhood before he can date you.
7. You have hidden plenty of things about yourself from him.
And lastly, another probable reason as to why a man wouldn’t be ready for a relationship with you is due to your secrecy. You have to be able to prepare a man to be in a relationship with you. You can’t be hiding anything from him if you want him to be ready to date you. You have to open yourself up to your man and let him see the entire truth about who you are.
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