Tie the knot!
Getting engaged to your partner is a big deal and it’s definitely something that couples shouldn’t be taking lightly. And so naturally, if you feel like you’re in a relationship that is right for an engagement, you will really want to know for sure in case the opportunity presents itself. You always want to make sure that the timing of your engagement to your partner is perfect. If you wait too long, you might miss out on the opportunity of spending the rest of your life with the person who loves you the most in the world. If you force things too early, you risk scaring away your partner with your aggressiveness and overeager demeanor. In relationships, timing is everything even though a lot of couples won’t want to admit it. But it’s very important to remember that relationships should always be moving at their own individual pace. If you start to see that friends your age are starting to get engaged and tie the knot in their relationships, that shouldn’t make you feel like you are being left behind. Choosing to get engaged to your partner just because everyone else seems to be doing it is an absurd idea to entertain. You shouldn’t be succumbing to the pressure that the public dating sphere has placed on you. Remember that you know your relationship best and only you and your partner get to dictate at what pace your relationship should be going. No one else should be heavily influencing how you choose to go about your relationship.
You shouldn’t be getting engaged to your partner just because someone else is telling you to do so. You should never move on to a phase in your relationship if you or your partner aren’t ready to do so. It’s also the wrong mindset to have if you think that you need to get engaged once you reach a certain age. Age shouldn’t be the only thing that you should be factoring into your decision to elevate the status of your relationship. Even though it’s comforting to use age as a copout or an excuse to get engaged to someone, it shouldn’t really be the case. So how do you know if you and your partner are actually ripe for an engagement? Well, there are a few signs that you could be on the lookout for.
1. You know the things about your partner that you hate but you accept them regardless.
You know that your relationship isn’t perfect; in fact, you know that your relationship is riddled with flaws and imperfections. Your partner isn’t necessarily the perfect person, but at least you are aware of those imperfections, and you are still choosing to love one another in spite of them.
2. You like the person that you’ve become since you’ve gotten together.
It’s all about constant growth and development as human beings. If both of you feel like you complement one another well and that you add value to each other’s lives, then it makes perfect sense for the both of you to get engaged.
3. You and your partner have already discussed your nonnegotiable boundaries and expectations in the relationship.
You already know each other’s deal breakers. You already know each other’s boundaries. You have discussed all of the expectations that you for each other and for the relationship. You are both completely open to one another about your needs and that puts you in a good place as a couple.
4. You feel like you both genuinely want to spend the rest of your lives together in marriage.
Of course, at the base of it all, it’s commitment. If you feel like you’re both at a place wherein you can really see yourselves spending the rest of your lives together, then maybe an engagement isn’t such a bad idea.
5. You feel thankful that you are together and you wouldn’t want to have it any other way.
You are deeply content with the state of your relationship and you can’t imagine living your life in any other way. In fact, you wouldn’t want it to be any other way. You don’t think that you could be happier with anyone else.
6. You don’t have any relationship deficiencies as far as respect, trust, and communication are concerned.
You are both respectful of one another and you trust each other enough to always stay together despite the troubles and challenges that may be hurled in your direction. You are also great communicators and you always allow one another to freely express yourselves even when it’s difficult or inconvenient to do so.
7. The timing for an engagement fits perfectly.
Lastly, it’s all about timing. If you feel like the timing is right for you to get engaged, then go right ahead. You and your partner are the best judges for whether the time is right after all.
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