Just because you want to fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to have to give up your independent nature. You can still be a go-getter. You can still be a strong-willed woman who wants to make the most out of the life that you’re given. Gone are the days wherein men just expect you to stay at home and be a mother to your future children. You are allowed to dream of a life that transcends being a housewife or a homemaker.
You no longer have to stick to those roles if you don’t want to (not that there’s anything wrong with choosing to be a housewife in the first place). It’s just that no one is going to blame you for wanting more out of life. No one should have the right to tell you that you can’t pursue your dream just because you’re going to end up in a healthy and loving relationship. You don’t have to give up who you are for you to find success in love. In fact, you should find a love that actually pushes and inspires you to be the best possible version of yourself.
You should find a love that doesn’t restrict or constrain you to a certain lifestyle. How exactly do you do that? Well, it’s not going to be easy. But relationships are never easy to begin with. It’s just going to be a whole different animal to you. And so you’re going to have to approach relationships a little differently than others would. If you are an alpha female who is looking to make the most out of your romantic relationships, then this article is here to help guide you through that process. Here are 9 keys to being an alpha female in a healthy romantic relationship.
1. You should be able to communicate often and effectively.
Communication is key in any kind of relationship really. But it is even more important considering that you are an expressive woman who is never afraid of speaking your mind. You have high standards. And you need to make sure that you communicate these standards to your partner so that you are both on the same page all of the time.
2. You should include your partner in the decision-making process.
You might be so eager to make decisions about your life on your own. But you can’t do that if you’re going to be in a relationship. You have to remember that you can’t be so selfish anymore. You need to be able to discuss major life decisions with your partner. He’s called your partner for a reason.
If you’re going to spend the rest of your lives together, you need to be able to integrate each other into to your social circles. This means introducing one another to your own respective set of families and friends. And you need to be able to talk about what kind of relationship dynamics you expect within these interactions.
4. You should discuss career goals and directions together.
If you really want a shot at making things work between the two of you without having to compromise your careers, then you need to talk about your career goals together. Have a map for your career that the both of you can really stick to; something that the both of you can agree to for the sake of making your relationship work.
5. You should communicate about your financial plans and issues all the time.
You should never downplay the significance of finances in a relationship. You are both going to have to be open to one another about your spending habits and your financial situations. And you are both going to have to come up with a game plan to make sure that your relationship doesn’t have to go through any financial problems.
6. You should talk about future living arrangements together.
Part of ensuring that your relationship has a future is discussing the vision of that future. And part of that vision should be living arrangements. Where do you both want to live? When do you want to move in? What kind of shelter will you want for your future family?
7. You should discuss how you spend your holidays.
Holidays are a big deal. And it’s best to not just assume how you’re both going to spend it. Really talk things through so that neither of you will be blindsided as these dates approach.
8. You should both encourage each other to live your individual lives outside of your relationship.
Just because you’re falling in love with one another doesn’t mean that you both have to be giving up your sense of self. You don’t have to give up who you are just because you’re in a relationship with one another. You should both still be allowed to have your individual passions, interests, personal goals, and preferences.
