There are just some people who never seem to learn from the mistakes that they make in love and relationships. It doesn’t matter how many painful and heartbreaking experiences they might have to go through in life, they’re just going to be caught in that loop because they can’t seem to figure out what they’re doing wrong.
And you might be one of those people if you keep on finding yourself in a relationship with the same kind of guy over and over again You are so tired of getting your heart broken after every failed relationship. But you still keep on doing the same things that put you in those emotionally compromising positions, to begin with. You have to remember that you can’t keep on doing the same things if you want to change the outcomes of your relationship experiments. You have to show a willingness to change your approach to love and dating if you want to be able to yield positive results.
That’s why you need to approach relationships differently. You need to be able to figure out what you’re doing wrong and make the necessary adjustments to your methods so that you won’t keep putting yourself in these positions of heartbreak again and again. And this is going to require an immense sense of introspection and self-reflection. But that isn’t something that most people are going to be gifted with having.
Don’t fret. This article is going to help you figure out the error of your ways so that you can improve your overall approach to love and relationships. Here are some things that you might be doing wrong which is making you fall for the toxic guy every time.
1. You are too afraid of being single.
You are just far too afraid of being on your own. You need to learn to be more independent if you want to end up with a great guy. Otherwise, you are going to be attracting losers and codependent men who wouldn’t really be able to make a relationship work with you.
2. You like to attract drama.
You just like the drama a lot. You are someone who keeps on attracting drama into your life because you think it’s fun. But the thing about drama is that you’re not always going to be able to control it. And drama can be very dangerous for a stable and sound relationship.
3. You lower your standards a lot.
You keep on lowering your standards for the sake of just getting into a relationship. And that can be dangerous because instead of demanding more from who you are with, you end up settling for someone who is obviously beneath you and undeserving.
4. You constantly crave for external validation.
You are someone who constantly craves validation from other people. And so, you latch on to the first guy who would give you even the slightest compliment. That can be very problematic because there are plenty of men out there who will say anything just to manipulate and abuse you.
5. You think that you are able to change the men you’re with.
You have to understand that there is no way for you to be able to change the people that you’re with. It’s true that it’s possible for people to change. But that shouldn’t be the kind of mindset that you have when you start dating guys.
6. You are too fearful of ending up alone.
Sometimes, fear can be a very dangerous motivator in a romantic relationship. You should never be getting with someone because of fear. A romantic relationship should always be built on love. If you’re too afraid of being forever alone, you might compel yourself into just settling for a toxic guy.
7. You struggle with commitment.
Commitment is something that you are ALWAYS going to need if you want to sustain a long-term relationship. It would be impossible for a romantic relationship to work if you don’t commit to it. And it can be hard to gain the commitment of a good man when you can’t show him the same kind of commitment too.
8. You have problems with self-love and self-esteem.
You are someone who really struggles with self-esteem and self-love. And that’s going to be a problem in any kind of relationship. You open yourself up to the abuse and manipulation of the people you interact with. You need to learn to treat yourself better so that other people will be forced to do the same.
9. You don’t know what you’re looking for.
You aren’t really sure about what you need to be looking for in a relationship just yet. You haven’t taken the time to sit down and think about what you might need from a partner and a relationship. And so, you end up dating guys without really having any guiding principles that would help you to weed out the bad ones.