There are always going to be a few instances wherein people stay in relationships even when the relationships are practically over. These are people who are either too stubborn or deluded about the real state of their relationships. They stay in their sad romances even when the truth is that the relationships are probably long-dead.
And that’s unfortunate. Well, it’s always unfortunate whenever two lovers have to call it quits. But it’s even more unfortunate when two people are in a failed relationship and they don’t even know it yet. You never want to be wasting your time in a relationship that is practically doomed to failure. You don’t want to be beating a dead horse. You don’t want to be investing so much of yourself in a relationship that’s just going to end anyway.
That is why you always have to stay vigilant of the signs that your relationship is practically over. Yes, you always want to be working hard for love. You don’t want to run away just because things get difficult. However, it also gets to a point wherein you need to know when to walk away from a fight that is already lost. Here are some sad signs that your relationship is really over and it’s time for you to move on.
1. Your sex life is practically nonexistent.
You don’t have a sex life anymore. There is just no passion in your relationship and you practically have no physical intimacy between the two of you anymore. You are essentially just two separate souls living alongside one another.
2. You have lost all the excitement in your relationship.
You don’t really feel any sense of excitement in your relationship anymore. You aren’t excited at the thought of looking towards the future in your relationship. You’re bored. The relationship doesn’t really give you any kind of exhilaration or thrill at this point. And the future looks very bleak.
3. You initiate fights with your partner.
You really try to pick fights with your partner. And that isn’t to say that healthy relationships are always without fights. Even healthy couples argue. However, if you are always LOOKING for arguments, then that might be a bad sign. It shows that you are deeply frustrated with your partner and you’re trying to get them to be upset with you as well.
4. You avoid making plans for the future.
When you are in a relationship, you never want to forget about your past because that’s where the roots of your love can be found. You also never want to be taking the present for granted. You always want to be living in the moment. However, you also need to always be planning for the future. That is essential in any kind of long-term relationship. If not, you’re just practically giving your relationship its own expiration date.
5. You don’t really express your affection for one another.
You don’t tell each other that you love one another. You don’t really try to do errands for each other. You don’t really try to look out for your partner’s needs. You don’t do anything to make your partner feel your love in any capacity. And that is a big sign that the two of you are just out of it at this point.
6. You spend more time with other people or other activities.
You have to know that we only ever really spend time on the things that are most important to us. And so, if you notice that you or your partner spend less time on the relationship, then you are practically uninvested in the relationship. The way that you choose to schedule your life is an indicator of the health of your relationship.
7. You daydream about what it would be like to be with someone else.
You know that your relationship is in a sad state whenever you find yourself daydreaming about what it would be like to be with someone else. You’re seriously discontent with how your relationship has turned out and you are really considering just exploring other options at this point.
8. Neither of you is putting in the effort in your relationship anymore.
It always takes the committed effort of two people in a relationship to make it work. And that is why if you notice that neither you or your partner are giving a hundred percent effort to your love, then you’re probably already in a losing battle and there’s no point in prolonging the pain.
9. There is infidelity in the relationship.
Once someone in your relationship cheats, then you know that that is some bad news. Thinking about cheating and actually acting on it are two very different things. If your partner cheats on you, it just goes to show that they don’t really care about staying loyal to you anymore.