Getting into a loving and romantic relationship always feels just so perfect until it’s not. This tends to happen a lot. You fall in love with someone and so you decide to get into a relationship together. But then you start to notice that your relationship isn’t so perfect after all. You start to discover that there are so many things about your partner that you find really iffy, but you just can’t seem to put your finger on it.
It’s really confusing to you. You’re in a relationship and your partner tells you that you are loved and appreciated. But you just can’t help but feel like something is wrong. At the back of your mind, you know that there’s just something fishy going on about your relationship and not everything is the way that it’s supposed to be.
Maybe you have to consider the possibility that your partner isn’t really being completely honest with you. Perhaps your partner’s feelings aren’t really as genuine as you have been led to believe. Your partner tells you that they love you that they would do anything for you. You hear them say those words, but you don’t really feel it.
You don’t feel it because they don’t act on it. They are so quick to say all these things to you, but they don’t necessarily follow up their words with real actions. That’s why you’re feeling a void in your romance.
But why would your partner be lying to you in the first place? Well, maybe your partner is just using you for something. Maybe for your looks, your money, your kindness, your popularity, or something else. The fact of the matter is that they don’t really love you they are merely in love with what they can get out of being in a relationship with you.
Here are a few signs that your partner is just using you.
1. They only ever act nice towards you when you’re alone by yourselves.
They would never want other people to think that they’re into you. They hide you. They are secretive about their feelings for you. They don’t want it to be public knowledge that you’re together because they would be ashamed of you.
2. They are the only ones who make the decisions in the relationship.
They always call the shots and they never let you get a word in. They are always making decisions whether big or small. They refuse to hear you out and they never ask your opinion for anything at all.
3. The text you a whole lot more than they take you out on dates.
They keep on texting you and keeping contact with you, but they never take you out on real dates. This would be understandable if you lived really far away from each other in a long-distance relationship kind of situation. But it doesn’t make sense if you don’t try to see each other often even though you live really near.
4. They always act very vaguely and mysteriously when they’re around you.
They act very shiftily. You always get the sense that they’re trying to hide something from you. You can never feel like they are about to reveal their whole selves to you.
Good article. I have now learned to keep my head and my heart in different places and let them do their jobs.
My ex and i have a 3 yr relationship . And then since september he gets cold of me . He never often chats me .then i discover that he flirtings with another girl. We never had dates i thought he loves me but im wrong
Ive been into this relationships for almost 5 years and it’s hard to step back because I’m willing to give him a lot of chances just to find out that he’s still cheating on me and I know it…and everytime he gives me an update on what his doing I know that he’s only lying…I accept all of it because I love him so much…and then one day,I saw some chats and I decided to moved away..far from him and I never even talk to him and gone…is it the right thing to do???