9 Signs they’re going to dump you

Read the signs before they dump you.

Breakups are the worst. There are few things in the world that can actually match the level of suck that breakups can bring into a person’s life. They have the ability to leave a person completely disoriented, disappointed, heartbroken, and lost. You are in a relationship with a person for the longest time and you’ve grown to develop some sort of routine around your love affair.

And then, a breakup forces you to revert back into your previous life and you don’t know what to do with yourself. That’s why a lot of people will always try their absolute best to make their relationships work. They will not want to deal with the pain and the emotional weight of breaking up.

So when they notice the slightest signs of doom in a relationship, they will make adjustments to make sure that things stay on course. Whenever they feel that their partner is starting to lose interest and luster in the relationship, they will take action. They will try to correct whatever is wrong in an effort to save the relationship. 

But no matter how hard we try, sometimes breakups are inevitable. The best we can do during these instances is to brace ourselves for it. We have to be able to prepare ourselves on a physical, emotional, and mental level for when the breakup comes.

It’s still going to hurt, but it least it doesn’t catch you off guard. It won’t leave you feeling as disoriented as it would have had you not seen it coming.

So that’s why you should always stay on top of your relationship. You can’t afford to go on autopilot when it comes to living your relationship. This way, you can always notice right away whenever something isn’t going the way that it should.

You will be able to spot the clear signs of doom early on and then you can start making your adjustments. Here are a few signs that your partner is thinking about dumping you.

1. He has a sudden shift of character.

He is no longer acting like the sweet, caring, and romantic person that he once used to be. These days, he seems a little more distant and cold to you. It’s as if he’s angry with you and he’s just choosing to live alongside you rather than actually with you.

2. You’re the only one left putting in all the effort.

Relationships are all about give-and-take. It’s a two-way street after all. Both people in a relationship should be putting just as much into it as they are getting out of it. If it seems like you’re the only one who’s been doing the giving lately, then something is definitely wrong.

3. He doesn’t give any significance to your relationship milestones anymore.

Anniversaries aren’t important. Birthdays will be just like any other day. These little things that you used to hold deep in your heart as a couple are no longer important to him.

4. People start noticing that you are having your relationship woes.

One of the best ways to tell that something is legitimately wrong in your relationship is when other people tell you about it. Sometimes, a lot of us need some healthy perspective from the outside in order for us to really know the status of our lives. Often, our biases and emotions can blind us from the real truth.

5. You’ve fallen into the boring relationship category.

When you fall into a rut as a couple, you can suspect that this isn’t the most sustainable means of carrying out a love affair. Someone is bound to get dumped eventually and you can’t expect things to go any other way unless you actually shake things up.

6. He no longer invites you to go out.

If he wants to spend more time with his mates without having you there, then yes, there’s definitely something wrong. He should be wanting to spend as much time as possible with you. So when he starts going out with his friends and he doesn’t invite you, perhaps you need to review where you went wrong in the relationship.

7. You don’t feel like you could trust him anymore.

He’s acting shady and you’ve noticed it. There’s a shift in the air. Something is just different. He’s no longer giving you a reason to trust him. You feel like he’s going to betray you at some point and it’s just a matter of time before he does.

8. He fights you and blames you for his problems.

Whenever things go wrong in his life, he is going to start to blame you for it. If he is failing at school or struggling at work, he’s going to use you as an emotional punching bag. It’s not going to be fair. You know that there are deeper issues there that need addressing.

9. He would prefer to be alone than be with you.

He doesn’t like spending time with you anymore. It’s as simple as that. Whenever that happens, he starts questioning the point of staying in a relationship with you. The end is near and both of you know it.

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