Of course, you would always want to assume that your man never lies to you. You would always want to believe that somehow, he is always going, to be honest, and upfront with you about the things that are on his mind. But alas, we don’t live in a fantasy world. Men lie.
And that also includes the men who love you. But don’t worry. Just because he lies to you every now and then doesn’t meant that he loves you less. It’s just that a lot of us as human beings have this innate need to find ways to protect ourselves. And when he lies, it’s only because he doesn’t want to get himself into trouble with you.
Some lies are harmless. Some lies are harmful. It all really depends on the situation. But ultimately, it’s rare to find relationships that are filled with complete honesty. There are always going to be a few deceits, hidden truths, and misdirection every now and then.
If you notice that your guy has been guilty of a lot of the things that are listed in this article, then it’s highly likely that he’s cheating on you – and you definitely need to confront him about it.
1. You started off as an affair yourselves in the early aspects of your relationship.
If he cheated on someone else to be with you, what makes you think that he isn’t going to cheat on you to be with someone else? You know what they say after all. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2. He is always accusing you of being a cheater.
He’s deflecting. He’s so guilty of the way that he’s treating you that he’s going to try to convince himself that you’re guilty of doing the same thing to him. He thinks that if he’s cheating on you, it’s possible that you’re cheating on him as well.
3. He has had increased spending habits.
This may be leading to two possible conclusions: he’s having gambling issues, and he’s acquiring lots of debt, or he’s having an affair, and he’s trying to fund it the best way he can without you noticing it.
4. He is trying out new things in bed with great accuracy.
He has had practice – and it’s obviously not with you. It’s rare for guys to be trying out new moves in bed and getting them right immediately without having practiced it first. He’s obviously engaging in extracurricular activities when it comes to his sex life.
5. He acts overly critical of you.
He is always criticizing you over something. And you want to know why? It’s because he has a reference point now. He is low-key comparing you to someone else in his mind, someone he’s having an affair with.
6. He has difficulty keeping track of his stories.
He has woven a very complicated web of lies, and he’s finding it more and more difficult to keep track of everything that he’s told you.
7. He doesn’t open up to you as much.
He doesn’t really want to open up to you as much anymore because he has found someone else he can open up to. He has someone new with whom he can discuss his thoughts, feelings, and emotions. He doesn’t have to depend on you anymore.
8. He has random new passions, hobbies, or interests.
If he’s suddenly taking a new interest in certain hobbies or topics that he has never been into before, then it’s probably because someone else is influencing him to do so – and it might be someone he’s having an affair with.
9. He has had family members who have been caught up in cases of infidelity.
Maybe it’s just how his environment shaped him as he was growing up. Perhaps it’s a familial influence. Maybe he thinks that cheating really is okay because he sees it happening all of the time.