No one can deny that sex plays a very important role in most modern relationships. But what happens when there is a certain imbalance in the sexual dynamics between two people in a relationship? For instance, you might be someone who is more sexually aggressive and enthusiastic. What do you have to do to get your partner on the same level? Should you force them to change for you? Should you just keep to yourself whenever you know that they’re not in the mood? Well, you can’t just sit back and not do anything about it. You risk having your sexual needs not being met. And that might breed a sense of resentment for your partner if you don’t address it. any kind of imbalance in a relationship isn’t going to be good for it. that’s why you want to bridge that gap and minimize that disparity to the best of your abilities.
So what exactly do you have to do to make sure that this imbalance in your relationship’s sexual dynamics doesn’t destroy your relationship as a whole? Well, you can continue to read on and find out.
1. Don’t take it so personally.
It’s not you. It’s them. Really. They might not just be so into sex. And it might not even have anything to do with the way that you look or the way that you perform. Sometimes, it’s just beyond your control so don’t take it so personally.
2. Focus on the friendship that you have with your partner.
Remember that one of the best ways to get your partner to become more comfortable with you is to make them feel like you have an emotional connection with them. Don’t be so eager to engage in the physical connections without first going through the motions of establishing emotional bonds.
3. Try taking a different approach to initiating sex.
Maybe the reason that your partner keeps rejecting you for sex is that you keep on going back to the same bag of tricks over and over again. Try to mix it up a little. Take a different approach to sex. If it doesn’t work one way then don’t be afraid of going another route.
4. Always go back to the things that work.
Try to figure out the patterns here. Whenever you approach your partner for sex, then you always have to try to take note of the various approaches that actually work. And focus on those. Make a mental note of the approaches that your partner typically responds to and you will have better luck at initiating sex in the future.
5. Be affectionate and intimate without necessarily having sex in mind.
Sometimes, your partner is just going to need a little warming up before they can actually get into the mood of having sex with you. And that may mean having to engage in subtle forms of intimacy and affection with your partner every now and then. However, manage your expectations. Get physically intimate with your partner but don’t always be expecting sex.
6. Don’t be afraid to engage in self-pleasure.
Masturbation is always going to be an option for you regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. Just because you aren’t getting your ideal sexual needs doesn’t mean that you can’t engage in forms of self-pleasure. If those hormones are just running wild, then you can always take solace in the fact that you can find relief in masturbating.
7. Adjust your perspective and be open to other forms of love.
You have to understand that just because your partner doesn’t really want to have as much sex with you as you would like doesn’t mean that they don’t love you. Try to adjust your perspective and try to focus on the other ways in which they express their love for you. You might not be getting so much sexual fulfilment. But perhaps you can find fulfilment in other aspects of the relationship that might help compensate.
8. Be respectful of your partner’s sexual philosophies and requirements.
If your partner is the picker and snobbier one when it comes to sex, then you are the one who is going to have to make all of the adjustments. You will have to be the one who exerts more effort in your relationship to actually make sure that your sex life doesn’t go stale. And you’re going to have to be okay with that fact as well.
9. And if things just don’t pick up, be honest about it.
Honesty is always going to be the best policy. And you have to keep this philosophy in mind in whatever aspect of your relationship – even in sex. If you have tried your best and have exhausted all efforts listed here, then maybe it might be time to open up to your partner about your frustrations. Try to find a way to compromise or just seek other alternatives so that the both of you can be happy.