Hey, girl. If you don’t know it already, then you’re in for a very rude awakening. Love isn’t always going to give you the perfect story that you want it to give you. It’s never going to be like you see on the movies. It’s never going to be like you read in books.
And you’re just going to have to be content with that fact. Yes, you should have your expectations going into love – but you also have to expect that your expectations aren’t always going to be met. And that’s just the true nature of love. It’s imperfect and you have to make do with the imperfections that it brings.
Yes, love is magical. It has its moments. It can be the single greatest thing that you could possible experience in this life. But just because love is amazing doesn’t mean that it’s not going to bring you a fair amount of hardships and difficulties as well.
You could meet a guy that you become interested him; and he can seem infinitely amazing at first. He will do his part in trying to woo you. He will do his best to gain your trust. And if everything just clicks, then you fall in love with him. You meet him and you fall in love with him. And sometimes, that love can go awry.
Sometimes, the people we fall in love with don’t always turn out to be the people we think they are. We can fall in love with someone and they can turn into someone else entirely the deeper that we get into the relationship.
Sometimes, the guy who has led you to believe that he is a completely upright and committed guy turns out to be a player. And unfortunately, it’s you who he’s playing with.
And you don’t want that for yourself. You don’t deserve it. You deserve to be treated with love and care. You deserve to be appreciated and valued. So you always have to make it a point to fight for what you deserve. If you know that your guy is a player, then dump him.
But how do you know that he’s a player for sure? Well, here are a few signs that you can be on the lookout for:
1. He nags on you because it’s his idea of fun.
He acts like he’s only joking around with you when he insults and teases you; but the truth is that he’s doing so to actually destroy your spirit. He wants you to feel bad about who you are. He wants you to feel like you’re not good enough for him.
2. He acts dismissive and disinterested in your opinions.
He doesn’t really love you. He’s only playing you. He doesn’t really invest himself in getting to know you better or hearing you out. He is selfish and he doesn’t care about you as much as he cares about himself.
3. You can tell that the sweet stuff he tells you are rehearsed lines.
Yes, he can deliver a great line. But that’s the thing. He does it too well. You can really tell that he’s told these lines to girls before – and you’re probably not the last he’s going to be telling them to.
It’s so sad that my partner of 5 years has 8/9 of those signs and we have two daughters (4&2) and we’ve been engaged for 4 years. And now he doesn’t even talk about marriage anymore. ☹
Sounds about right..you hit that square on….Sad and it’s hard because we can’t help who we fall in love with really…when we are conned the feelings are still very real for us.