Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and difficult things to go through. And when a woman is pregnant, she goes through a lot of biological changes that affect her in different ways. Maternity leave is meant for mothers to heal and be surrounded by loved ones. But in today’s story, the boyfriend’s mother wasn’t supportive.
A woman with the username Similar-Put1285 posted her story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) asking whether she did the right thing or not for telling her boyfriend’s mother off. She wrote:
“I’m 37 weeks pregnant now and my boyfriend took 3 weeks off work to stay with me so that we can adjust to being parents to a newborn. This is my first and I’m very nervous and really need the support right now.”
“My boyfriend’s mother took it upon herself to schedule a “paternity vacation” for my boyfriend for the last two weeks of his leave. She came over for dinner and surprised him with it. It’s an all expense paid vacation to Italy for my boyfriend as his paternity present.”
‘She gave me a jade stoned bracelet and a matching newborn one for the baby as it’s part of their culture to give the family stone to the mother and child once they enter the family. That was very kind of her.”
“However I told her that his leave was for helping with the baby. She was taken aback and said that he would be with me for a week and that was long enough. Her husband never even stayed at the hospital with her when her son was born.”
“I told her and my boyfriend that I didn’t want him to go and that she should have asked first before buying such an extraordinary gift. She left in tears because I was “ungrateful” and ruining her sons experience.”
“My boyfriend pretty much agrees that he should go for atleast a week because she paid for it but I really wanted him to stay with me and bond with our daughter. AITA?”
The Responses
It’s pretty obvious from reading this woman’s story that she will be supported by everyone on Reddit. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the top comments:
jimrow83 wrote:
“NTA at all, what am asinine idea!”
“A vacation AWAY from his one week old baby?”
“What in the literal f**k was his mother thinking?”
finkplamingoes commented:
“Oof. NTA. What a presumptuous gift, and the fact that your boyfriend didn’t immediately turn it down is unsettling. Guilt about something he never asked for should never come before his responsibility to you as a partner and to your newborn as a father. Your response was reasonable and not at all ungrateful. I hope your boyfriend can grow a pair and put his foot down with his mom.”
progress76 chimed in:
“NTA. That is insane; the whole point of him taking time off of work was to be there for you. It’s unimaginable to me that his mother could have thought it was a good idea to just take him to Europe.”
CorkBullet wrote:
“NTA She sounds like a complete out of touch idiot. She left in tears? How fragile and close minded is she? Does your boyfriend want to leave you alone with his new born baby?”
“I just got off paternity leave months ago and nothing could have pulled me away from helping / bonding with my new born baby.”
“Furthermore , you are going to be tired and very sore after birth (not trying to scare you) it’s not acceptable at all for him to leave”
“I’m not even involved at all and I’m so mad for you.”
This post has over 2.9k comments at the time of writing this article, you can read them all on Reddit here.
What’s Your Take?
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Source: Reddit
