5 steps that will help you find hope in your relationship
Everyone goes through tough times.В Every relation has a rough patch and demands compromise. I’d be lying to you if I said your relationship is a bed of roses. All roses have their thorns and you just need to get through it, together.В At times when we have been facing difficulties for a very long time, we start to believe that nothing can make things work. Soon, every small thing starts to bug you and build up that frustration. Before you know, you’ve given up all hope and walked out of the relationship.В Here are a few things that have given me immense hope in the times when I and my partner had almost given up.В I would recommend that you and your partner do this together. A small exercise that will revive your relationship.
5. COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER ABOUT WHY YOU BOTH ARE DOING THIS
It is important that you and your partner communicate to each other about why you are doing all these things.В Sometimes, you already know something but want to hear it from your partner, like listening to your partner say I love you’ is something you can never get used to.В So tell your partner that you’re doing this because you want things to work and because you are not ready to let go till you have tried everything to make things work. Also, hear what your partner has to say.В This will help you see that your partner is trying equally.
4. GO DOWN MEMORY LANE
Sit and talk about how you and your partner met.В Tell them the things that you remember from that day. It’s like drawing a painting with your words.В Help them imagine and relive that day. Also, listen closely to what your partner has to say about that day.
3. THE FIRST TIME YOU BOTH TOLD EACH OTHER THAT YOU WANTED TO BE A COUPLE
This moment is the most important and memorable moment of any relationship. Ask your partner to do a little role playing activity.В At first, switch roles with your partner.В Let your partner see themselves through your eyes. If you were the one to propose, let them be the one to do it the exact same way you did. Remember, act it out the way you remember and don’t guide each other during the activity.В Once you are done, do it the way it actually happened.В There always will be a slight difference between the role play and the actual incident. Usually, your partner will always make your role seem a lot more magical, because that is how the moment was for them. Also, this small act will show the both of you how much efforts were made from both sides.В I and my partner had already found hope once we reached this step, I am sure you will too.
2. THE FUNNIEST MOMENTS
The best times of a relationship are when the two laugh together.В Remind your partner of the funniest moments in your relationship and laugh with him/her.В This will show the both of you how many great times you have spent together and that all those memories are worth one more try, at least.
1. TAKE THIS TEST
Do this activity and you will find hope instantly.
Take two blank pages; give one to your partner. You will now answer all the questions listed below.
1. What pet names have you given to your partner so far? List all of them!
2. What are the negative things you’ve seen in others and are glad that your partner doesn’t have them?
3. Your partner had a bad day, probably the worst day of their lives. They feel awful about themselves. What will you say to make them feel better?
4. Sign off the letter with the pet name your partner calls you with and at the end just write ‘I will try’.
Now exchange the letters.
You have successfully referred to your partner with the most loving names, told them how much you love them, what makes them stand out, how nothing can ever be compared to them and finally, you’ve told them that you will try.
Even though you’ve done it as an activity and you both know that you only said you’ll try because you were asked to do so but remember you wouldn’t do that, even, if you weren’t really trying at the first place.
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Have you been trying to revive a broken relationship? Has it worked for you? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!