There are plenty of things that go into making a relationship work. It’s all part of the inherently complex nature of relationships. As individual human beings, we are as complex and as complicated as can be already. And sit’s only right that when two human beings get together and try to navigate their feelings around one another, then things become just infinitely more complex.
But that’s okay – just because relationships are hard doesn’t mean that they’re going to be impossible. Again, all of the challenges that come with relationships are always manageable. With enough determination, love, and luck, you are always going to be able to weather the storm to see your relationship through until forever.
And one of the most important aspects of making a relationship work is loyalty. You must always be able and willing to stay loyal to the person you’re in a relationship with. You have to remember that when you commit to one another, you are making a promise to have each other’s backs no matter what.
You are putting yourselves in an “us against the world” kind of situation; and you must always stay faithful to each other. Any failure to do so compromise the trust and integrity of a relationship – and you definitely don’t want that. The moment that you find yourself in a relationship with someone who can’t stay loyal to you, you just have to be able to walk away from all of that.
But how do you know if you’re in a relationship with someone who won’t commit to you? Well, here are a few signs that you need to be on the lookout for. Emotional manipulation, frequent criticism, and isolation from friends and family are all signs of an abusive relationship. Recognizing these indicators can help you understand the dynamics at play, allowing you to take steps towards protecting your well-being. Remember, your safety and mental health should always be a priority when evaluating the state of your relationship.
1. He still flirts with other people even though he knows it makes you uncomfortable.
Regardless of how it might make you feel or whatever his intentions might be, he should never be flirting with other girls if you’re in a relationship together. Even if he says that he has no intentions on following through with his flirtatious adventures. He shouldn’t really be doing them anyway.
2. He rarely ever articulates his attraction towards you.
He rarely ever tells you he loves you. He rarely ever tells you just why he likes being with you. Compliments and words of endearment are very rare when it comes to him.
3. He constantly treats your romance like it’s a competition or a game.
He sees you more as competition than a genuine partner. Instead of cheering you on and being happy for you when you succeed, he tries to overshadow you instead.
4. He doesn’t put much effort into the relationship in general.
He’s not really invested in making things work with you. He doesn’t care enough about your relationship to actually put effort into making it work. He’s not really the kind of guy that you can count on to help pick up the slack. You are constantly made to feel like you have to be the one who is carrying the relationship.
5. He never checks up on you when you spend time apart from one another.
He doesn’t really think about you whenever you’re not together. He’s not all too concerned about what you’re doing when he’s not around – and it’s likely that he doesn’t want you to know what he’s up to when you’re not together either.
6. He doesn’t make you feel like he has your back.
He doesn’t really come off as the type of guy who would help you through your most vulnerable moments. He’s not the kind of guy who is going to help pick you up whenever you stumble. In fact, you’re not even sure that you can rely on him to be there for you in the times when you need him the most. He just doesn’t do anything to make you feel safe or secure.
7. He acts hot and cold in your relationship.
He’s kind one day. He’s terrible on the next. He loves you today. He ignores you tomorrow. He never seems to be consistent with you at all.
8. He is always making and breaking promises to you.
A guy who can’t seem to honor his commitments to you is a guy who doesn’t care much about how you feel and what you think about him. This is a guy who would have no problem disappointing you at every turn. If he can’t even seem to deliver on the simple stuff, what makes you think that he’s going to come through on the important stuff?
9. He seems unwilling to talk about the future of your relationship.
The reason he doesn’t want to talk about the future of your relationship is that he honestly doesn’t see the two of you have a future together. He looks at you and he knows that he isn’t going to stay with you for a long time. He sees you as someone who is temporary and he won’t even bother planning a future with you anymore.
