A 32-year-old male opened up on social media about the very difficult situation that he has found himself in with his girlfriend. And the reason that he decided to open up on a public space is that he felt like he needed the advice of whoever would chance The guy is actually torn between two different situations. He wonders if he should leave his girlfriend or if he should still marry her even though he doesn’t really love her anymore. The couple has been together for more than 5 years and they are even living together in Chicago.
It’s not all that uncommon for someone to fall out of love in a relationship. It happens to a lot of couples no matter how long they might be in a relationship together. And a lot of the time, these people just become honest with one another about lost feelings and they try to move on with their lives independent from one another.
But it’s a little more complicated for the man who is the subject of today’s article. In his case, in particular, it isn’t as simple as merely breaking up with a girlfriend he doesn’t love anymore. The reason? He kind of owes his life to her.
A few months ago, he had serious medical issues and he felt so alone in his battle to save his own life. No one was really there to help him. He was diagnosed with chronic kidney disease and he needed to either undergo dialysis for the rest of his life or have a kidney transplant. And in an effort to save his life, his girlfriend decided to donate one of her kidneys to him.
He literally wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for her. And that’s why he isn’t sure if it would be right for him to break up with her so ruthlessly after what she’s done for him.
Things are a lot more different in their relationship now. He doesn’t really love her as much as before. In fact, he doesn’t really have any love or attachment towards her anymore. He doesn’t feel like they still belong together. However, he still has an immense sense of gratitude and appreciation for her saving his life. He knows that he would never be able to repay her for what she’s done for him. He definitely knows that she is deserving of his loyalty. The kidney transplant literally saved him from his own demise.
And that is precisely why he finds himself at a crossroads right now. He doesn’t know if it’s right for him to break up with her after she saved him. But he also doesn’t know if it’s right for him to lie to her and patronize her by staying with her even though he no longer has any feelings for her.
He really does feel torn with both of his options and he doesn’t know any other way around it.
If he chooses to stay with her, he’s going to feel trapped in a relationship that has no love in it anymore – and he knows that his girl would never be happy with him if that were the case. But if he breaks up with her, he’s going to be vilified in the eyes of so many people for being the man who dumped the girl who saved his life.
What do you think of this guy’s situation? What would you do if it were you in his shoes?