Love is wonderful, but it’s important to remember to love yourself too. In a loving relationship, you don’t need to make big sacrifices or changes that make you unhappy. In this article, we’ll talk about fifteen important things to remember when you’re in love. These tips will help you have a happy and healthy relationship without giving up who you are.
Let’s look at these important tips for a better and balanced love life.
1. Lose Weight
Losing weight should be for your health, not just for a man. It’s important to stay fit and active, but don’t change yourself drastically to please someone. If he loves you, he’ll appreciate you as you are.
2. Leave Lifelong Friends
Friends are a vital part of life. Don’t ditch them just for a man. A good partner will understand your need for friends and support your relationships with them.
3. Change Your Core Values
Don’t abandon your core values and beliefs just to please a man. A strong relationship should be built on shared values and mutual respect for each other’s differences.
4. Sacrifice Your Independence
Maintain your independence and don’t become overly reliant on a man. It’s crucial to have your own identity, interests, and financial security.
5. Lower Your Standards
Standards are like your personal rules for a healthy relationship. Never compromise them just to keep a man. Stick to what’s important for you, and you’ll find someone who appreciates and respects your standards.
6. Neglect Your Well-Being
Your physical and emotional well-being should always be your top priority. Don’t neglect your health or happiness for the sake of a relationship. A good partner will support your well-being.
7. Accept Being His Backup Plan
If he’s not prioritizing you or keeps you as an option, don’t settle. You deserve to be someone’s first choice. If he only reaches out when it’s convenient for him or when no one else is around, recognize your worth and step away because love is not about waiting on the sidelines.
8. Tolerate Disrespect or Abuse
Never tolerate disrespect or abuse from a man, even if you love him. Love should never justify mistreatment. Seek help if you’re in an unhealthy relationship.
9. Become Someone You’re Not
Authenticity is vital in a relationship. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just to fit a certain image. A loving partner will accept and love the real you.
10. Suppress Your Opinions
Don’t hold back your opinions or thoughts to avoid conflicts. Healthy communication in a relationship means sharing your views, even if they differ from his.
11. Abandon Your Education or Career
Your education and career are essential for your personal growth and financial independence. Don’t give them up for a man. A supportive partner will encourage your professional development.
12. Give Up Your Financial Independence
Maintain control over your finances and don’t rely solely on a man for financial support. Financial independence provides security and freedom in a relationship.
13. Neglect Your Hobbies and Interests
Maintain your hobbies and interests that make you happy. These activities are a part of who you are and can bring balance to your life.
14. Settle for Unhappiness
Never settle for an unhappy or abusive relationship just because you love him. Love should bring happiness, not misery. Seek help and support if you’re in an unhealthy situation.
15. Give Up Your Dreams
Your dreams are what make you unique and happy. Don’t abandon them for anyone. In a loving relationship, your partner should encourage your dreams and help you achieve them.
What are some things you believe should never be done for a man, even if you’re deeply in love with him? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!
If he tells you you can’t talk to family, family is everything to me
Any man I am with will have to understand Family is huge. I would never give up my family for anyone
If such a man exists..Every Woman I know would Climb all over him!(Of course that chemistry has to be there..💫
I will never give up any of these 15 things for the love of a man. I believe that a relationship is still a 2-way thing and is proved by acceptance and being happy of who I am and what I can do.. If I have to be someone I am not, it is a red flag and will definitely end my relationship.
This will be a mutial agreement
AMEN!! AMEN!! AMEN!! Ladies and Gentleman take these statements to HEART YOU DESERVE BETTER!! I’m So PROUD of My Amazing man he’s not perfect but he stood by my side when both of my parents were sick and passed. He had no problem moving my Mom into our Home a few years after my Daddy passed and caring for her if I was out or him working more and harder so I could stay home with her even had no problem with my Sister move in and help with her and being there for me. The best thing is it taught Our Daughter and Son that Family is first and that true love changes daily and how you act when things get tough you pull together not fall apart. It’s Great knowing that when we get Old that Our kids will be there for us as well as their spouses.
men like that are hard to find
Exactly…!
Try ur best if u don’t mistake I learn nothing
Agreed with most of this apart from the fact you said you’d do this for their parents “even if they hated” you. All people should still earn this unconditional love including your own family nevermind theirs. The advice on this page does not just extend to romantic relationships. You need good boundaries with toxic people including family. I used to think like you once I cut out toxic family from my life after giving unconditional love over and over and they just constantly abused it, once I cut them out my life exceeded very quickly and I found peace. People like that hold you back from your dreams and living a happy life. Just because they are blood to you or your partner does not mean they are good people and deserving of you. You must show respect for yourself and that unconditional love for your partner more than you do for them.
wow 🤬🤯😨 and I do gotta say we all knows it goes both ways visa versa an so relatable mary
Ya, well, your family is probably psychotic. I don’t blame him.
Damn Steve I think your on the wrong website maybe you shouldn’t be Is stocking whoever it is on this pay you are stocking
My family is your family that should be his mindset it’s a collective effort and readiness to compromise. Adjust and never give up on the ones you love 💕
keep boundaries know your worth. if he goes off with other chick’s and calls you names get rid of him. don’t allow him to disrespect you. don’t stay with him if he don’t have a job.Dontvlet him let youvtake care of him.
It is to me as well. I was widowed back in 1987, he was acting the love of the life. He’d told me the year he passed away that if anything were to happen to him that he wanted me to get remarried. I promised I would. My next husband was a manipulator, he is also the father to my son. He hasn’t seen our son for over 20 years now. I tried it one more time he wasn’t any better than my ex. During this time I was close to my first husband’s family. I held a surprise dinner party for my first mother in law. The only one I claim. The next day he informed me that I didn’t need to hang out with them anymore because they were no longer my family since my husband was dead. When I informed him that they would ALWAYS be part of my family. He was shocked but later that same day his mom had stopped by so I asked her for her opinion on it. She sided with me and he then asked her how she could do that to him. He moved out less than a month later. I’m not sorry to say but they will always be father.
There’s a lot repeated on this list so it’s not really 15 things. 1 is actually repeated the exact same way only a couple lines down & the rest are just worded lil differently. It makes it seem like the article needed to be a certain amount of words or something to be accepted & takes away from it. Not really fair to the writer. Otherwise it was a great list & very true.
You put that her replies basically say the same thing but ended saying it was a good list.lol bless you sweetheart. It seems that you want to give an opinion but in the end you also try to end with a smile. And that’s ok. To me it shows you’re a caring person🙂
I knew a liberal feminist, wrote this. Now, th be equitable and inclusive, do this same list for men.
Men should do the same.
Greg grouchy pants. Men are simple.Women use their hearts without their head a lot. When we do that then we get blinded and deceived or deceive ourselves. I’m not liberal but let’s not talk politics. It goes nowhere and ends in fights. If you would look at the list again, you may notice that by doing what she says not to do are also things that men will find displeasing in women. I feel that if a woman follows this list, a man will respect her more. Now it doesn’t say to have power over a man or be above him or to act like a man so I think you’re safe here.
Yes one for men should be done, I myself would like to understand their side.
Any for a man contrary to these is narcissist
For me personally, I’ve been through domestic abuse and the biggest mistake I made was letting a man make me feel that I was less than him and that I needed him . He also told me I’d never get anyone else because I was older than him and that I should be thankful he even looked at me. Yes I left him eventually but he took so much from me, he took my life and I can’t write why but I’m still healing from him
Michelle, Just take one day at a time….thank god you left him. I lost a close female friend last year, as I believe that the man she was with physically, emotionally, and mentally abused her to her death. She was 50. She left 6 children and several grandchildren…If you need help find it, talk with friends, family…and me if you want- I will listen.
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Wow, your comment will help
Others and this article can be helpful as it is important for us to know our value/worth to the right man.
I was mattied for 65
Sounds like a narcissist. They manipulate everything back to you that it’s your fault, when it’s ALL his.
So very true. I was married to a abusive, manipulative narcissist for 27 years. They will NEVER see the real reason they treat us terribly- it is ALWAYS our fault. They will likely NEVER change. I kept my “rose colored” glasses on for too long- I thought if I prayed enough & always did the the right thing that he would SEE his horrible ways….HE DIDN’T!! Thankfully I left before he killed me. I believe if I had stayed, I would not be here now. It’s been 13 years that I have been FREE! I will be in therapy forever but I AM GREAT!! I am FINALLY living my best life!n
Everything in a marriage , or friendship is always HALF your fault. Neber more ne er less, the man or women you are claiming at fault is also the person you chose. That’s half your fault unless you relationship is a result of an arrange marriage? Or you were forced to have children with a man? Women are too important to the mental and emotional health of our society to be resorting to victims mentality, lady’s. Our society is not meant fir single 50+ year old women either. I advise you look at the statistics on hoe you will pay your bills after you’re too old to work? Before your grandmother relied solely on her husbands , estate, pension and life insurance well into her 100s . It’s said only women who have 2 million dollars in the bank at 60 years old can truly say she “doesn’t need to marry a man.” That’s 1% of latinas, the rest will be homeless or a burden on their children. SSI depletes in 2035 , right when Gen x will need it the most lady’s good luck I hope you find companionship some day soon
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wow 🤬🤯😨 and I do gotta say we all knows it goes both ways visa versa
Don’t know why tolerated physical, mental and emotional abuse from my husband. He said certain gf is not good but his guy friends sleep and cheat on their wives ok for him. He meet his friends everyday to talk passive income opportunity but if I questioned it be a fight. Why am I not leaving him? I will I guess
If he’s unwilling to calmly address and resolve your concerns, it’s time to split.
If he doesn’t recognize the enemy is the problem caused by his behavior, and argues with you to win, instead of putting you at ease, he’s not emotionally mature enough to ride into battle for you, he’s riding against you.
This is coming from a 50+ year old man that was that toxic immature and selfish little boy until my early thirties.
I always blamed partners for being insecure and controlling, but after a little therapy, realized I was the problem and needed to fix it.
I haven’t cheated on anyone in 17 years, am now transparent about my past, and will disengage from anyone with whom I don’t feel a strong connection and long term potential.
I do so directly, honestly, and humanely with no criticism. Most importantly, I do so prior to being physical with the person.
I will not exchange that energy knowing I have no intention of continuing
What if your life long friends don’t accept your partner, or husband what then? What if you are forced into a choice?
It shouldn’t be an ultimatum, your friends should diplomatically voice their concerns to you one time, then respect that they aren’t dating him, you are, and if you’re happy they should be happy for you.
They can hate him, but need to keep it to themselves and be cordial.
They shouldn’t try to control or even influence your choices, they should merely be available should you wish to discuss it
Remember, your “friends” or family may be the toxic, controlling, narcissists. Perhaps that is why they do not like your mate.
Therapy together BEFORE marriage will save you a lot of time and heartache. If you both cannot comfortably agree on how assets are divided, how children are to be raised, religious practices, housekeeping
duties, lifestyle budget, and trult know each others “love language”, before you are married, you are asking for troubles.
I appreciate this insight, Bill.
I choose my husband now over my BF. She was determined to break us up because I was spending all my time with him instead of go out partying with her. I don’t regret my decision at all because she was going by the way he was 3 years before. He had change a lot after and it showed. We’ve been married for 32years now. Have problems just like everyone else but we work together to fix them. Some people do change for better but some don’t. It’s a 50/50 bet. You never know what side of the coin he on good or bad.
You should never spoil them. Wait on them hand and foot. Make them be independent and don’t spend all your money on them when your barely scraping by. Never let them manipulate you to get what they want and make you feel guilty. Never be in a relationship where they never help financially and you have used all your money to take care of the house and home. They are just using you whole they build up their money.
I can relate to this 😞
I’ve never asked her to stop, or change anything about herself or give up any part of her life. I honestly need help with this factor… her best friend is her boss , known each other for 13 years, friend of the family, AND IS HER EX !!! She’s cheated on me with him twice that I know of! I’ve been in this chaos for 14 months… all her friends are guys , that she’s never took me around or introduced me. I’ve only been around with family get togethers about 5 times!! I need advice!!
My thoughts? Point 3 and 7 are the same!
I think this list relates for both men and women. A man can just as manipulated and mistreated as a woman in a relationship.
A man may control me in a way to submission but never to change who I am and what I stand for.. He either accept me for who I am or nothing goes between us!
Am I the only one that saw number three and number seven are literally the same thing. That kind of changes the numbers doesn’t it since it’s not actually fifteen it’s technically fourteen.
I’m not sure about life long friends. My life long friends were horrible to the man I am with today. They were best friends with my first husband who passed away. They have said horrible things about the man I am with now like, he;s not good enough for me, he doesn’t have enough money, he won’t make you happy and all this hurt me deeply, because he is wonderful to me, has the utmost respect for me and loves me deeply and we have a lot in common and so much fun. I still talk to them, but they don’t accept him and their actions have been cruel, they put me in a position to choose and I chose him. This makes me so sad. Were they really my friends?
Don’t let a man take away your happiness because he supports you financial. He will abuse you forever.
tks deona…ths is at least $1,000 worth of licensed enotional therapy with which i totally agree …to the point that i kno fm personal experience that in most cases (99%) the narc accuser is mch more the guilty party than is the accused 🤕
nice
and you should never EVER run or chase a man even if you feel like a need to…
if he truly loved or loves you,he WILL come for you
True
Absolutely
I am doing ALL of this. I’m stuck and scared.
these 15 items are good to know for now and for the future
try to remember all 15 items is very hard and important to know