Not every relationship is meant to work. A lot of relationships are meant to be a lesson of life that you’ll remember forever. A lot of marriages end up in divorce, so this isn’t only limited to relationships. It’s about the fragility of emotions and how easily they can break if proper care isn’t given to them.
A Redditor, donutnolikey, posted a very important question on AskReddit where they asked the community their “Oh Hell Nah” moment that made them quit the relationship. They wrote:
What was your “OH HELL NAH” moment in a relationship that made you leave?
Within moments of this post going live, Redditors came from all over to share their stories of their own moments of realization. Here are 13 of those stories:
- swiftsafflina saw a lot of massive red flags:
“There was a lot of crap but this was the final straw.”
“I locked the door before going to bed one night when he was out late with friends. He had lost his house key and never bothered to mention it, which was somehow my fault.”
“He woke me up by banging on the window and when I let him in began screaming and throwing things at me. Telling me to pack up my sh*t and leave and locked me out of our bedroom. I slept on the couch.”
“Next morning he acted completely normal, like nothing had happened. I was gone that day because I no longer felt safe.”
2. OLPopsAdelphia saved himself early on:
“She crawled through my doggie door at 1:30 am, went through my phone, and then asked me why I was talking to another woman.”
“Oh, I forgot to mention that I broke up with her a month earlier. We were not in a relationship when she pulled that stunt.”
3. prim3y shared how his self-esteem was never considered:
“Was in a relationship with a girl for a while, and she used to always mock my taste in music and other various choices. Kinda mundane things, but like personality reflective things. TV shows I liked, artists I like, etc. We went on a driving trip. (definitely the best way to see if a relationship will work, let’s be honest.) I just kinda had this epiphany that I was in an ab*sive relationship, but I didn’t have a low self esteem so it wasn’t really affecting me. For the most part I would just think it was weird, or think, ‘what’s she on about this time?’ I broke up with her about 2 weeks later.”
4. luarne shared about manipulation:
“I was in a 5 yr relationship with this guy that was psychologically ab*sive. One year, my sister in law was having pregnancy complications so my family all decided to go to their house for Christmas so she didn’t have to travel the 5 hrs to get to us. I told my bf and he said ‘well obvious you’re not going’. Turns out not getting to see my family on Christmas was just the push I needed.”
5. hungnv123 talks about having lack of privacy:
“She posted sh*t on social media every single time we fight. At first always something indirectly about she was feeling blue, then it escalated into mentioning me several times. There was this one time when she decided to insult me on social media when we were fighting, and I decided that was it.”
“One of the best decision of me life lol.”
6. weirdest_wallflower was being kept in the dark:
“Never introduced me to his friends. Would actively avoid being seen with me by people he knew. I pretty quickly asked him what was his problem. His answer was that I needed to change my appearance because he didn’t want people seeing him date a weird goth chick. Dumped him right then.”
7. Xen0phage101380 was ghosted in the 90s:
“In 1999, My third gf and I had standing plans to hang out on weekends… Well one weekend I went over to her place to find that no one was home. I tried calling the following day, no answer, so I tried later in the day, no answer, next day same thing, left a message, same thing each day for a week. At first I was just concerned something had happened to her, but by a week later with no response I was pretty sure she’d ghosted (though ghosting wasn’t a term back then) me. So I gave up… Well two days later I get a call from her, it turned out her and her family had gone on a trip to Chicago and she didn’t think it might be a good idea to let me know. When I asked her why she didn’t let me know, her response was something to the effect of she didn’t owe it to me to inform me. My basic response was that if she cared about me she would have let me know, so I wouldn’t worry about her just disappearing for over a week. I dumped her and refused to take her back….”
8. SolderonSenoz also saw the signs early:
“she didn’t mention me to a guy she went out with, when he asked who I was, she said, ‘A guy who’s into me'”
“she thought she wasn’t wrong because she wasn’t technically lying”
9. KorinTor was dealing with jealousy issues:
“My best friend is female we have been friends for 18 years, was out with a new gf and ran into NY friend at the mall. Friend hugged me and I introduced her and I though all was well until we got home. She freaked out and said she broke ‘girl code’ and I wasn’t allowed to talk to her anymore… side note she had male friends that I didn’t freak out over, I pointed that out and she said ‘it’s different, you’re a guy’ to which I said she has issues and this wasn’t going to work out and I never looked back.”
“I’m not throwing away a life long friend to appease a jealous girlfriend.”
10. kayemdubs found out that she was being cheated on:
“I dated a guy long enough to become close with his family, and one day we were having dinner at his house and his mom asks me (at the table with the family) how I liked this new restaurant in the area as if I’d been there. When I said I hadn’t been there yet, she said “oh I thought that’s where you two went last weekend?” We had not gone out that weekend, and that’s how I found out he was dating other girls and telling his mother he was going out with me.”
“The ‘hell nah’ part was that he could lie so easily to his mom and that she believed him – if a guy treats his mom like sh*t he’s not going to respect his wife either.”
11. Slaiks had a major problem:
“When they started stalking me, following me to outings I was invited to. Yea. No thank you.”
12. sagerideout, too, was being cheated on:
“A few years ago, in the beginning of one of the worst winters I’ve seen, my gf wasn’t feeling well so I got some flowers and soup and walked them to her place as a surprise. right when I got there she was walking out, dressed extra extra nice, said she had to get her stepdad milk and didn’t have enough time to give me a ride home (it was like 3 blocks away)”
“her stepdad was lactose intolerant”
13. SirSlade85 was made to feel like they’re not enough:
“Well I didn’t leave at first cuz of how much I loved her but for future relationships when my girlfriend says ‘can we be in a poly relationship?’ Or something around those lines we are absolutely DONE! Never again will I feel like I’m not enough”
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Source: Reddit
I dated a guy who said he was an retired attorney . Mind you he was my brothers best friend in grade school and had moved away to CA from Nebraska. So I thought he had did very well for himself . We even got engaged but the red flags kept coming. When he first contacted me he said he had just purchased his daughter a home. I thought what an awesome dad. He stated since in lived in TX and him in CA that he was going to purchase a home to accommodate both of our cars and belongings. WELL first after meeting his daughter she said he hadn’t purchased her a home and been promising her for 5 years. A woman from our home town told me he conned her out of 1000. She sent him the money to come and see her and he never showed up. She also said he has served prison time for conning people in CA. He had told me that he was a millionaire from HIS law firm but didn’t want to access the money yet because he would have start paying taxes! He was never an attorney, he wasn’t a millionaire and he served time in prison. I googled his name and found about him going to prison for conning people . When I confronted him about these lies and many more he told me I didn’t have a need to know. That was it for me