Stop buying into the whole Hollywood concept of finding your love at first sight because that’s rarely ever the case.
To start with, let’s get one thing perfectly clear. It’s never okay to just be that kind of girl who falls for just about any guy who gives her the least bit of attention. It’s never cool to be the kind of girl who falls a little too hard and a little too quickly. People will never be a hundred percent sure of their feelings right off the bat. That’s why it’s very important for you to be able to try to make sense of things before diving headfirst into anything that requires deep commitment. Feelings are always going to be complicated and that’s why you need to take your time and wrap your head around your emotions before you make any rash decisions.
You have to consider the possibility that this guy just isn’t really the one for you. You have to be open to the idea of just letting love come. You don’t have to force anything. You don’t have to pressure yourself into making a relationship work just because you believe it’s your destiny to do so.
Stop buying into the whole Hollywood concept of finding your love at first sight because that’s rarely ever the case. People tend to sensationalize the idea of meeting a person and immediately falling head over heels even though there’s no practical reason for them to do so. It takes a whole lot of shared time, effort, and experience for people to know whether they have a chance at being compatible with each other. And even, then the compatibility is never a sure thing. We can wait for months or years for people to become comfortable enough to completely open up to us. We can’t ever allow ourselves to rush into emotional vulnerability because we would only be setting ourselves up for heartbreak.
A lot of us are guilty of this. We dream up outrageous fantasies in our heads the moment we meet people who manage to grab our attention. We buildup entire dream worlds of where everything is romanticized and the world seems like such a bright, vibrant, and happy place. We try to paint these fantastical pictures in our heads of what our relationship could look like and we trick ourselves into believing that all these dreams are within our grasps. We are influenced by the old Shakespearean romances and the Hollywood romantic comedies that leave us feeling like we are also entitled to a grand story that’s worth spreading. We are so quick to think about what kind of happy endings we are going to have that we end up rushing through the beginnings in the process.
This is no ideal way to go about love. Love should never have to be rushed. Love doesn’t always have to be fantastical or outrageous. Love doesn’t always have to offer perfect conditions. It doesn’t always have to be downright flawless or pristine. Love has its ugly sides and it takes a while for them to show. But that’s the only way for you to really know when love is real. That’s the only way you can tell that love is genuine. When even the ugly sides of it are still worth loving, then that’s how you’re certain when this is a love that’s worth fighting for; a love that’s worth getting up in the morning for.
You have to understand that the fast lane isn’t always the best way to go about life. Sometimes, you need to take things slow in order for you to fully savor and appreciate the beauty that life is offering you. You need to be able to change your pace in a way that satisfied the needs of your heart. You need to take a break from all of the hustle and bustle of the modern world. You have to allow yourself the space to breathe and let love flow through you as the wind does through the trees it gives life to. You need to know that when you love someone, it doesn’t necessarily happen all at once. It comes slowly but surely. It fills you up like little drops of water falling into a bucket. You are waiting in anticipation for every great reveal and you are always left in awe. You don’t let everything come at you all at once so that you don’t get overwhelmed. Love is calculated and slow. It’s methodical and sure. It grows and develops gradually over time and that’s the best kind of love; the one that is constantly evolving into something pure.
Don’t succumb to the modern pressures of having to find love all at once. Love will come to you eventually. It has to wait for you to be ready for it. You have to be patient and you have to be willing to grow as a person. You have to be comfortable with the concepts of change.
You have to be mature enough to accept it when it comes; and when it does come knocking on your door, you will discover why it was worth the wait.