We’ve spoken about how important financial transparency and support are for all relationships. Today’s Reddit story is about a wife who’s husband never supported her business – but when it got big, he demanded for half of the business.
The Story
A woman with the username Throwaway679__ posted her story on Reddit’s AITA (Am I the A**hole?) subreddit – asking the community if she was right or wrong. Here is her story:
“My husband M35 is a bank clerk and I F29 have WFH job which I barely bear since I’m an active outdoor person and like doing gardening stuff in particular. I figured since I have background in gardening I decided to use our spacious backyard to grow flowers and sell them online after arranging and organizing them into bouqets. When I brought this up with my husband he said this was the worst idea ever, adding this would be major waste of time and money and suggested I look for a 2nd job.
“I didn’t listen and started my business little by little. In a matter of 18 months it started bringing decent money and I gained customers. My husband offered to look at how much I was able to make in the past months and was impressed.
“The other day he was standing with his drink while I was checking my flowers. He talked about what a good job I was doing keeping “our” business “flowing”. I corrected him about it being our business and reminded him about how little faith he had in my potential to make decent money out of growing, selling cut flowers. He was like “Well…I didn’t honestly think your little gardening hobby was going to get anywhere but now that business is “flourishing” I want my fair share of profit and won’t settle for less than 50%”
“I was puzzled I asked why he thought he should get any share of profit let alone 50%. His answer was that I was using his soil to grow my flowers on.
“I said this is our house/our soil not just his since we’re married and both our names are on the title. He was like “actually I owned this house long before you came along so it’s technically mine!” I replied that he must be aware it’ll be split in half in case of seperation. He laughed and joked about how silly I was for “hinting” seperation just because he was asking for something that he so richly deserves which is 50% of the profit. I said no and that he was delusional to ask cause even his soil alone doesn’t magically grow my flowers there’s a lot of work to it from picking, buying seeds, taking time, effort to care for them. Collecting, triming, and selling them while all he does is sit back.
“I said it didn’t matter to him when I started using “his soil” why now? He said it always matters when money is involved!. We had an argument about it and he apologized BUT ONLY for approaching the subject rudely but still wants 50%. He’s been silent about it since after stating that he already said what he needed to say and I needed to make the right decision. AITA?
“To clarify my husband and I both have our own salaries, we contribute equally towards expenses. It’s his idea since he had a divorce before. He still has things that he owns alone which isn’t bad since money has never been an issue. It’s not like he needs money for an emergency or something he just wants 50% of profit going forward.”
The Responses
This woman received massive support on Reddit for what she did. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the comments:
Reddit user minenangel commented:
“NTA and I really hope you’re consulting a divorce lawyer. Your husband just showed his true colors and the picture isn’t pretty at all. Leave his sorry ass to rot on “his” soil and plant a new garden somewhere else without an entitled burden.”
meangirl33 offered some good legal advice:
“NTA but you need to visit a lawyer ASAP to get your business registered in just your name and to look into a post-nup. You need to protect yourself here!”
IcyAmphibian6455 commented:
“NTA your husband is. Is he giving you 50% of his wages??”
There are over 2.6k comments on this post, you can read them all on Reddit here.
Our Take
NTA. When your husband doesn’t support you in your venture, showing little or no interest and only being interested after it becomes major – he doesn’t deserve any part of it. We hope this woman finds happiness and more success in her life!
Your Take
What’s your take on this woman’s story? Talk to us in the comments below!
Source: Reddit – AITA for calling my husband delusional for demanding I give him 50% profit of my business that he didn’t support?
Typical woman attitude.”whats yours is mine and whats mine is mine.”The business grew while they were married so if they split he should get 50% like shee would get 50%of the house
My husband and both run side businesses of our own. And work 55+ hrs/wk. We both help each other when needed on these businesses but our profits are not up for debate, what I make I keep and spend as needed, same for him. And he makes way more than me. But he spends him earnings how he wants. As I do mine. As long as bills are paid I don’t care. But I will not ask for his profits as he doesn’t ask for mine.
Typical male reaction…thinking (ha) a woman “needs” a man’s money when she’s proven , quite nicely in fact, she’s more than capable of doing well without him.
If this woman has the same common sense as business sense, she’ll walk away from him and “his soil”, plant roots somewhere else and blossom without him.
And since he hasn’t bothered exerting ANY energy in building HER business, he should be able to take care of “his” home (and self) without her.
Lmao fool that’s not how that works and that’s not the evidence we have here. She wanted to start the business he said it was a waste of time. He doesn’t contribute to the business. The house is in BOTH their names and they BOTH contribute to it therefore they split the financial responsibility and the financial gains should it be sold. Your comment is typical of that of an entitled person who wants the gain after they pissed on the idea and didn’t contribute anything.