Human biology is beautiful and exquisite. It defines us and differentiates us from one another – that’s what it is to be human. Understanding and being considerate about each other’s biology and how our bodies work is essential. Sadly, such is not the case in today’s story.
The Story
A woman, ThrowraRyan7697, shared a terrible story of what happened when her husband threw out her tampon box. She wrote her story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) explaining what happened and asking if she was wrong. She wrote:
“We (Me 27, him 30) together for 3, married for 2 months.”
“So here’s a thing, I used to use pads for my periods but recently was able to start using tampons (I have medical problems) in comparison, Tampons work 10x better for me, especially when I’m outside…say like at work or traveling. My husband Ryan hates them, he never truly gave a reason other than just say…he doesn’t feel comfortable with me using them. I didn’t think it was a big deal at first since he said he hates a lot of stuff that I do but ‘puts up’ with it anyway except for this. He asked that I go back to using pads but I made it clear since it’s my body then I get to decide.”
“He threw away some tampons he had access to, and I was getting upset but*!!!!* to keep the peace, I just bought a box and hid it away from him. he somehow found it and threw it away. I didn’t find that out till I had my period yesterday and realized I had no tampons to use. I was tired, and too stressed I just yelled at him after he admitted to throwing away the whole box. He argued that I already knew how he felt about this stuff and yet I decided to still keep it around. I lost it and told him he had no right to do this and told him to get over himself already. He stared at me almost about to tear up or something, then walked out.”
“He later went on about how we, as a couple should take each other’s discomfort into consideration and said he already tried to speak to me about those tampons yet I brushed him off and insulted him and verbally ab*sed him. He also said that if I still insist on using them then I should do it while I’m outside the house but I said that it won’t happen. I feel bad for how it played out but I was just at my wet’s end and in so much pain I lashed out.”
“Did I go too far here? Does he have a valid point or not?”
The Responses
Everyone on Reddit supported this woman and stood by her actions. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best responses and comments:
zelda-hime wrote:
“Uh… what the f**k. NTA, at all. What is wrong with your husband??? He can be ‘uncomfortable’ with your choice of menstruation products all he wants I guess, but he doesn’t get to make it your problem and he definitely doesn’t get to throw away your tampons. I can’t fathom what on earth he could be thinking.”
FaceTheJury chimed in:
“NTA. Wtf did I just read? I don’t understand why he cares if you use tampons.”
“is his p*nis smaller than the tampon and he feels threatened by it?”
slag_merchant commented:
“NTA-Trying to gaslight her over tampons. I couldn’t imagine telling my wife she couldn’t use something that helped her with her personal hygiene. I can’t think of a single reason that would validate his argument. In fact, I don’t tell my wife what she can and can’t do at all. This issue is a little deeper than this single situation.”
fingapoppin752 responded:
“NTA. That’s WEIRD. I can’t even wrap my head around why this might be his choice? Is he making the decisions for your body now? And he ‘puts up’ with your stuff? Red flag city, sister.”
This post has over 3000 comments at the time of writing this article, you can read them all on Reddit here.
Our Take
NTA. This woman’s husband doesn’t respect her choices and decisions – massive red flags in this entire story. Our individual biologies should be respected and we should never be questioned on how we take care of our personal hygiene – simple.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this woman’s situation? Share your take in the comments below.
Source: Reddit
NTA. I expect that the husband’s discomfort arises from the wife’s body being different from his. As a man, I still find it weird to think about peeing without using a penis, but half the world’s population does that. This husband’s journey has a little way to go about menstruation and so on, but it’s totally the wife’s choice. Lighten up, buddy. You don’t even have to take care of the issue, she does. Be grateful she doesn’t throw out your fishing rods or gun magazines or DVDs, etc because she doesn’t like them. Try a little mutual respect.