Ladies, this one’s for you!
Perhaps it’s possible that they’ve essentially been single for all of their adult life because they just aren’t comfortable with being labeled as someone’s girlfriend yet. Maybe they’re just not ready for it. Perhaps they haven’t really explored the dating scene much because the few times that they actually went out on a date, nothing serious ever really grew out of them. Perhaps they decided to just take a break from all of the pressure that comes with dating and with relationships as a whole. Perhaps they just wanted to take the time that the needed to find themselves and perhaps that’s what was best for them at the time.
Regardless of their motivations, their circumstances, or their approaches, the women who stay single for longer end up being the happiest. They are the ones who become the happiest because they are the ones who learn to really love themselves. They are the ones who grow to learn and understand that there is beauty and solace to be found within solitude. They are those who understand that happiness doesn’t always have to be found in another person. They are the ones who are fine with having an entire bed all to themselves at night while they sleep. They are the ones who are able to perform all of their chores and errands on their own without complaint.
They are the ones who don’t have to fear being alone because they know that they can take care of themselves really well. They are perfectly fine walking down the streets on their own because they don’t need anyone else to help them get to their desired destinations. They don’t fear the solitude. They embrace it. They thrive in it. They are the ones who become the happiest because they really make the time to build themselves as individuals. They are the ones who don’t have to worry about being selfish. They are the ones who get to devote all of their time and attention to their own personal lives and they can do so shamelessly and guiltlessly.
They are the ones who can make all the time in the world for their friends without having to worry about making someone else jealous. They are the ones who are able to keep in touch with their closest peers; to build the strength of their various relationships with others effortlessly. They are the ones who are able to pursue their dreams relentlessly instead of having to compromise them or let them slip away. They are the ones who dream big and they aren’t afraid of going after the things they set themselves out to accomplish. They are deeply motivated; and their motivation is always intrinsic. It is never dependent or reliant on another person. They are hardworking and they are passionate.
They are exceptionally good at blocking out distractions and focusing at the task at hand. That is why they have a tendency to achieve anything that they set their minds to. They are the ones who become the happiest because they really know what it means to thrive in independence. They are the ones who don’t have money problems because they know how to put in the work to actually earn the money that they spend. They are the ones who know how to manage their finances well because they really only have themselves to worry about. They are the ones with the skills necessary to survive on their own. They are intelligent and they are natural problem solvers.
They are the ones who are always able to pull through even when the odds are stacked against them. They are the ones who become the happiest because they understand a person’s life and sense of self-worth shouldn’t have to depend on whether or not they are in relationships. They understand that falling in love isn’t exactly the one thing that defines a person’s life. They are the ones who understand that there are many other facets to life that are worth exploring and are actually worth dedicating attention to. So even though they are single, that doesn’t mean they won’t be able to find happiness, meaning, and fulfilment in their lives.
It doesn’t mean that they won’t be able to experience the thrill of love because love doesn’t always have to be found in another human being. The girl who is single is going to be so much happier than the girl who just happens to be stuck in a toxic and abusive relationship because she is too scared of what might happen to her if she were single. The woman who actually embraces her singlehood is the one who is going to find happiness in simplicity. She is the one who is going to be able to find happiness in herself even when everything and everyone around her fails.