I wanted to hang on to an abusive relationship due to false hope

Kaetlyn Summers Posted 2 years ago
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In the 21st century, everyone gets so busy making their career that they forget everything about having a strong relationship with someone. Especially when it comes to women. When the right guy comes and they are just getting older and older, they do not think too much and they go with it because eventually, we will need to have a partner due to the fact that it is a biological need not only a social need. 

Women tend to ignore the tiny bit of things in their partners which can eventually make a relationship disastrous. Saying no to something and especially getting out of an abusive relationship is really hard but always remember that good things do not come easy. You are in an age where you just cannot afford to let the guy go due to his mistakes and you are living in a society where people would get shocked after knowing that you aren’t married in your late twenties, or at least in a relationship.

One out of every five girls have been in an abusive relationship. Now what makes everybody wonder is that how can you stay in an abusive relationship? You know that your partner is abusing you, you know that this is not healthy for you emotionally then why stay in the torturous atmosphere? That's not the case only with women but also with men. It is easy to think that only women have been abused by their partners. In fact, many men have reported that they have also been in an abusive relationship where the woman has been hurting them emotionally and physically. Physical torture can be seen but what is the worst is the emotional torture. When you go to the doctor, the doctor cannot easily see your emotional bruises, your emotional wounds. Physical bruises can be seen and reported in a medical report but what about the emotional abuse?

Of course, there are experts who can detect such emotional problems, but such experts are not always there in your life. What about your close friends, family and all those others who are close to you? They cannot see it and no one but yourself knows that you aren’t okay.

As mentioned earlier, it really is hard to come out of it but if you follow a few advices then it will be easier and you will surely come out of it. It will not be easy because no good thing is achieved easily, but this is what I can promise that it will be worth every second of the effort you make.

1. Start sharing with your closest friends and family members:

This move would not be easy because sometimes your partner presents him or herself as such an amazing person that even your closest friends would have a hard time in believing that you are the one who is being tortured. You can start this by mentioning how emotionally broken you feel. Start showing them tiny bits of proofs because it is not easy to break someone’s super good image.

Once you start to have their confidence, you can go ahead and start to take a stand for your own self. You get the feeling of security when you have your backup, this will make you slightly fearless, you will be confident in your own self and you will know that you have people for you who care for your well-being. Once you complete this step, then comes the next step which is mentioned in the heading below.