Relationships are rarely ever easy. In fact, for the most part, they can really be a big pain in the butt. But it’s always different whenever you are fortunate enough to be with someone who you truly love. They always make it seem like all of the difficulties and challenges are worth it. And that’s something that all of the best and strongest relationships recognize – the challenges are never going to go away. It’s just a matter of being with someone who you know you would be able to overcome all of the difficulties with.
The earliest stages of the relationship are always seen as the fun parts – the honeymoon period. Some people say that this is where couples get to really enjoy and have fun with one another because the problems and the reality of the situation won’t really sink in until later on. But what most people don’t realize is that you should always stay mindful of the way that you conduct yourself in your relationship even if it is still in the honeymoon stage.
Sure, it might feel like everything is still perfect in your relationship but that’s mostly just due to your rose-colored lenses. You’re just not seeing the ways in which the two of you might potentially be killing your relationship even if you’re just starting out. And that’s always a bad thing. You always want to be maintaining a sense of self-awareness in your relationship – especially in the early parts.
If you find yourself being guilty of the following things, then you might want to make a change in the way that you conduct yourself in early relationships. One of the common dating pitfalls for women is not setting clear boundaries, which can lead to misunderstandings and resentment down the line. Additionally, many women may overlook red flags in their partner’s behavior, hoping that things will improve over time. It’s essential to prioritize your own needs and ensure that you are in a healthy, communicative relationship.
1. You are too open and transparent.
Always make sure that you don’t give him too much information right away. For one, it’s going to be information overload on his part and he might get overwhelmed. And two, you take away the allure of mystery. Give him a reason to keep on chasing after you.
2. You play too hard to get.
But just because he loves the chase doesn’t mean that you should be playing hard to get. A man is always going to want to be with a woman who responds to his efforts and his advances. Don’t be acting like you’re uninterested in being with him.
3. You text him every chance you can get.
Yes, it can be very tempting to text him all day when things are just starting out. But you don’t want to be disregarding the other aspects of your life just so you can text him. Also, save some topics for when you actually converse with one another for real.
4. You try to control the whole situation.
Never try to be too controlling of the situation. There are very few things in the world that would make a man run away faster than having a woman try and control him to be a certain way.
5. You don’t take the time to see him.
You must always make it a point to carve time out from your schedule to see him. It can’t just always be him who makes the adjustments and the effort in the relationship. You have to show initiative and a willingness to adjust as well.
6. You shy away from defining the relationship.
Whenever he’s ready to define the relationship, you need to be able to have that talk with him. If you keep putting it off, then you risk losing him altogether.
7. You fail to respect boundaries.
This should be pretty self-explanatory. You always want to make sure that you stay respectful of him, his boundaries, and his dignity if you want to keep him in your life.
8. You get other people involved in your relationship.
You never want to be sharing what you have with other people right away. When things are fresh and new in the relationship, just keep it for yourselves. Keep things intimate. Only once you have built on that intimacy can you start gradually sharing it with others.
9. You take the positive gestures and traits for granted.
One thing that you would never want to do at any stage of your relationship takes your partner for granted. You always want to make sure that they know just how appreciative you can be for everything that they are and do.
10. You rush through the early stages of the relationship.
And of course, you never want to be rushing through the stages in your relationship. Love is a process. And it’s definitely going to take substantial time before love is actually built up to be something strong and real. You can’t have perfect love in just a matter of days.
Remember that when you’re just starting out, you are essentially setting up the foundations and pillars on which the two of you can build your relationship. That is why you don’t want to be guilty of committing any mistakes or bad habits so early on. You always want to be policing your own behavior if you want what is best for the relationship.
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Seemed to forget cheating, kinda a huge deal breaker for most guys……..
Not true…if a man is ready to commit that doesn’t matter….at all.
We didn’t talk about a relationship he just assumed that’s what I wanted when I explained that I wasn’t into a relationship. I have been single and on my own for over 20 years and jumping into a relationship was not on my agenda. He needed to give me time, well that went over really well cause now he doesn’t want to see me
Leslie Burgeson…I work at a jail, I watch the videos, read the mail etc..trust me when I say, they say whatever they can, to whomever they can, to get what they want while they are in jail/prison. they even teach each other how to do it, if one gets found out, they pass the girl over to another friend that starts with hey I know he never treated you right and it’s messed up, I would never do that to a girl as fine as you…and they proceed to use them. sometimes just one girl sometimes multiple girls. trust me when I say the guy he is that beats you is the real him, no love is gonna fix that. walk away now before he kills you. he is a user first and foremost. I see the aftermath of when they get busted again, the girls that are crying etc trying to take care of him yet again because she lives him, and he again is sorry, but only cuz he knows she can be used…quit giving him money, quit letting him hurt you, he does not love you it is just a word,he does not respect you…honey none of this is love!! move with your next paycheck and get a life where you can love yourself.
I lived with a man just like yours, always being accused of all kinds of horrendous things. I stayed for 36 years, my children have suffered because of our relationship. When he passed away I was releived. It’s called being a narcissist.It doesn’t get better, pray and decide what’s the best course for yourself and child.
I was in your shoes. relieved when passed.
GET OUT ASAP!!!!
i agree. communication, connection is the foundation of the relationship.
if there is lack of it then overthinking will apper. .
communication is the key .
get rid l reckon he puts him first
no, I don’t agree with a fair bit of that. especially the part about, not being able to sustain real love, in the early days. my partner and myself caught feelings, after around a week of chatting. they were feelings of love. we’ve been together 4 months. and the love has just got stronger
Too transparent?! 😂. rather that than being secretive. plus, you should be trying to find out a lot about each other. even on the first date. that’s one of the ways you will know if you want another date
Men are from mars women are from Venus. If you’re not intimate he will leave. Have accountability instead of trying to control intimacy from day one.
girlfriend, action speaks louder than words. when u’re ready and u’ve had enuf, u’ll leave him. he doesn’t love u. u have a trauma bond. look that up. he’s using u and u deserve better. u need to love urself and put urself first. he’s not going to change. I no, I went thru the exact same thing. I knew what he was doing, I wasn’t ready to accept it, I couldn’t handle the truth. this will take time but u have to leave him. when u’re ready. God will help u thru this. if God removes him from ur life, u have to realize that God did this for u and not take him back. if u take him back then u’ll have to do it urself and it’s a lot harder doing it by urself and it will take a lot longer. I no….I learned the hard way and wasted many of my young years living this way. now I’m 60 and I’m trying to pick up the pieces of my life after loosing EVERYTHING I worked so hard for. i mean EVERYTHING!!!! Pray for God to help u and for God to show u his true feelings for u. God will show u what u asked of him. believe me. I’ll pray for u, May God bless u
Same here. very sad to have those people. When he died I feel being free.
but it’s to late to find a better man. I am now 63.
those who are suffering like ours. you better quit. before it’s too late.
Don’t stay with a man who lays a hand on you.
You are worth more than that and he isn’t worth it.