Of course, you should always pursue love. But you also have to make sure that you’re pursuing love the right way and for the right reasons. You can’t always just jumping in and out of relationships with the wrong and unhealthy approach. Remember that it takes a great deal of emotional maturity to really make a relationship work. And emotional maturity can only come from a willingness to learn and grow from mistakes. So keep an open mind and make sure that you equip yourself with these valuable lessons before you actually get into a relationship with someone.
1. No relationship or person is ever going to be enough to give you a sense of completion.
Just because you get into a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you are going to be guaranteed to feel a sense of completion in life. In fact, more likely than not, a relationship isn’t going to give you the sense of completion that you so desperately seek. Life is far too complex and complicated.
2. You really need to value your sense of privacy and individuality.
When you get into a relationship, you are going to have to share your life with another person in some capacity. But before you get into a relationship, you must first learn to really value your sense of individuality and privacy. If you don’t acknowledge your own self-worth, you risk merely settling for a relationship that’s beneath you.
3. You have to learn that you are the only person you can rely on to save you from your troubles.
At the end of the day, the only person you can ever really rely on is yourself. Even if you are in a loving relationship with someone, you have to know that you aren’t always going to be a priority to your partner. Even if they wanted to, it would be impossible for them to be there for you every single time you need them. You have to learn that you can only ever really depend on yourself more than others.
4. You are more than capable of finding success without being in a relationship.
Your sense of success and self-fulfillment shouldn’t be dependent on whether you’re in a relationship or not. You should still be able to pursue success even when you’re single.
5. You don’t NEED to be in a relationship to be happy.
A person’s happiness shouldn’t be tied into whether they are in a relationship or not. Happiness is the ultimate goal of everyone and it’s not something that should be tied into a mere romantic relationship with someone. Yes, a relationship can contribute to your overall happiness. But it shouldn’t be the whole story.
6. It’s much more valuable to have real friends than romantic partners.
Sure, it’s great to have that one person with whom you can share a special romantic bond with. But also, there is immense value in being able to surround yourself with a great group of friends who really know how to take care of you. In your search for true love, you shouldn’t be foregoing your search for a healthy group of friends either.
7. You should always put yourself first in life.
You are always the priority. Don’t see it as being selfish. Selfishness isn’t necessarily a bad thing especially when it isn’t hurting other. You always have to take care of yourself first before you start taking on the emotional baggage and worries of other people.
8. You don’t have to give up on your dreams for a relationship.
Just because you get into a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you are going to have to pass on your goals and dreams. You might have to make a few adjustments and compromises; and that’s understandable. But the ideal situation would be for you to find a relationship that actually pushes and motivates you to go after everything you’ve always dreamed of.
9. You don’t lose your individuality by getting into a relationship.
You don’t have to give up your sense of self just because you get into a relationship. Yes, you are subscribing to a social contract with another person. But that person must also be willing to respect the fact that it takes two individuals to make up a relationship. You don’t have to give up your individuality just so you can be together.
10. Your problems aren’t going to go away just because you ignore them.
Yes, getting into a relationship could be a great distraction for you. It can be a great escape from the real world when you start falling in love with someone. But you also have to remember that getting into a relationship doesn’t mean that the other problems in your life are going to fix themselves. You shouldn’t use the relationship as an excuse for you to not take care of your personal troubles.
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