10 Beautiful old-fashioned relationship habits we need to bring back

old-fashioned relationship habits

Relationships have evolved over the years; they’ve become more technological now. The days of writing letters and appreciating every bit of it are long gone, I sort of miss those days, the days when every single phone call meant more than anything else. It’s all taken for granted now, because everything is so easy to obtain and also easy to replace (harsh, I know, but true nonetheless).

Today, I’m going to talk about some of the beautiful old-fashioned relationship habits we genuinely need to bring back. Let’s begin.

10. Spend a whole day together, without technology

It might sound a little “too much” to some of you, but try it once; you’ll feel free. When we spend time with our partners, we don’t truly appreciate their presence, because of the numerous phone calls and messages we have to tend to in the middle of it all.

Take one day out, for the two of you, either leave your phones at home or switch them off. Have a friendly conversation with each other, go to your favorite restaurant, just don’t let your attention be taken away by your phone, and spend proper time with each other. It’s a fantastic feeling, trust me, I’ve tried it. I do this now and then with my girlfriend; we have our “anti-tech” days where both of us switch off our phones. It’s very relieving.

9. Truly appreciate each other

We don’t fully understand our partners, we miss out on a lot of little things that mean a lot to them, and we ignore those things. Learn to understand your partner truly, don’t miss out even the smallest of effort they bring your way and let them know that you’re aware of their efforts.

Gentle reminders now and then that everything they do for you has appreciated means a lot to them, it doesn’t matter if they know it already, reminders are crucial. Life is too short, and you don’t want to know how quick it is, specific incidents and scenarios may take place, events that will make you regret not giving your all to your partner. I appreciate each other completely.

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8. Be present, mentally

It’s one thing to spend time together; it’s a different thing to be “present” during those times. Some of us, well most of us, are so caught up in our daily stresses and our busy schedules that we can’t be entirely mentally present with our partners, it’s very vital and not being mentally present may harm your relationship especially if your partner is and you aren’t.

My ex made me feel horrible because she never actually “listened” to me, she spent endless hours with me but not one second was spent when I thought that she’s actually “with” me, she was just there, and her mind was somewhere else. It hurts, makes sure you don’t hurt your partner because of this.

7. Play a vital part in each other’s growth

A relationship is amazingly successful when both partners have a keen interest in each other’s goals and dreams. If you are genuinely supportive of your partner in what they do, they will never forget your support and appreciate it for the years to come. Be each other’s counsel, help each other in the most difficult of times, groom each other, and empower one another.

If they fail, don’t let them get too affected by it, make their failures seem small and strengthen them even further to be successful, these are the common traits of every healthy and long-lasting relationship, and this is something I don’t see in a lot of the “modern-day” couples.

6. Solve your problems, without help from outside

Successful couples are so successful because no one knows their problems; the strongest of couples fight and have ups and downs. Still, the active part about them is that they learn to solve their issues together and don’t ask others for help, they don’t cry in front of anyone else and prefer to cry in front of each other if they have to.

Healthy couples have good social lives, they have a lot of friends, but none of their friends know of their problems, that’s what makes them “perfect” in their eyes, because they keep their questions to themselves, that’s how it should be. In today’s world, social media plays a vital role in relationships, I’ve seen a lot of sad status updates where couples bash each other to be okay in a few hours, but the damage is done, and everyone knows of your problems, avoid it.

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5. Always deliver your promises

Promises are meant to be kept, but in today’s world, promises are losing their appeal and worth because some of us don’t take them too seriously. I was also one of those people, a few months ago, my girlfriend made me promise her that I’ll bring a healthy change to my lifestyle (get proper sleep, work out, eat healthily) and I happily gave her my word.

But a few days later, I completely forgot my promise and went ahead with the lifestyle I had (sleeping at five in the morning, not eating correctly, etc.). So naturally, a few days later, she got sad with me and expressed her feelings toward the promise I never kept. It made me realize how easily I forgot about it, I was ashamed, I love this woman more than anything, and I forgot my promise? Since that day, the value of a promise has increased tremendously in my mind, and I always keep my promises.

4. Practice being truthful

This might seem like a no brainer, but it’s getting more and more abundant as we progress as people. Lying is becoming a habit in more and more couples every day, it’s a way out, and avoidance therapy of sorts, people want to avoid their problems rather than facing them head-on and telling the truth.

It’s scarier now because people lie thinking that it’s not a big deal to rest as long as it’s for the sake of your happiness, this is valid only to some extent but not if you make a habit out of it. Relationships last longer when there’s complete transparency between two people, and the element of lying is almost non-existent. Practice being truthful, it goes a long way.

3. Be a loyal partner

This too is slowly fading away, the concept of cheating is becoming more and more common, and technology has a big hand in this, because of technology it makes it more comfortable and accessible to cheat on someone because you can very easily hide your acts and delete them forever.

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But karma does exist, and whatever you do affects your life sooner or later. Loyalty is what we need. Don’t get me wrong, I use my phone more than the average person, but I also have nothing to hide. My girlfriend usually uses my phone to call people, and she never goes through my messages because she knows how grateful I am for having her, same goes for her, this sort of transparency gives us both peace of mind. Be loyal, be happy.

2. Know when to apologize

When we don’t be sorry for something we do, we make our partners feel like they’re not important enough to us, we make them feel like our ego and pride is worth more to us than having them in our lives, that’s very negative and can lead to a lot of bad fights and traumas.

It’s only human to make mistakes, and we should all own up to our mistakes right there and then, don’t wait for them to ask you to apologize, do it on your own because that has a stronger impact. Some people might say that saying sorry isn’t going to undo their mistakes, that’s true, but it’s also true that by saying sorry, you are letting them know that you are fully aware of your mistakes, and you’ll learn from them, never to repeat the same mistake.

1. Love each other, physically and spiritually

In today’s world, people pay more attention to what’s on the outside, people are getting more and more superficial, and it’s not a healthy way to live by. Beauty fades away, affection and love last forever, and those who know the latter are the same people who are truly happy.

If you have a habit of loving someone for how they look or present themselves, you’re going to have a wrong time. True love means loving each and everything about your partner; it means a robust physical connection as well as a secure spiritual connection. Keep a balance between the two.

Question of the day

What is the one habit you adore about your relationship? Share your answers in the comments below. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

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