Don’t work on something that’s going to hurt you.
Relationships are always going to be a two-way street. It can never be one-sided. A one-sided romance can only breed an imbalance that could potentially prove to be destructive for the relationship as a whole. It takes two people to tango, as they say. It takes two emotionally invested individuals in a relationship to make a romance work. If one side is failing to work, then it’s highly likely that the other side will fail to compensate for the lack of effort from their counterparts. So if you happen to find yourself feeling overworked in a relationship that just doesn’t work for you, you have to understand that you don’t have to put up with that. You are only running a race that you can’t win by doing so. You can’t afford to be wasting your time on a relationship that doesn’t give you anything of value. Here are 10 reasons that you shouldn’t be working for a relationship that doesn’t work for you:
1. You’re worth so much more than you’re being treated.
You deserve to be treated better and you know it. You put so much of yourself into the relationship, but you’re not getting what you need out of it. It makes no sense to keep investing so much of yourself into something that doesn’t yield any positive returns. You shouldn’t have to settle for this kind of one-sided romance.
2. You have to learn how to stand up for yourself.
If you persist in this kind of relationship, you are essentially allowing yourself to become a doormat. You are merely allowing yourself to just let other people walk all over you. And what’s worse, this person who just walks all over you is supposedly someone who loves you dearly.
3. You are wasting your energy and tiring yourself out for nothing.
Whenever you invest your energy into something, you have to make sure that it’s something that’s worthwhile. You only have so much of yourself to give and you can’t afford to be wasting yourself away on things that don’t add value to your life in any capacity. You should be putting your energy into things that make your life better.
4. You know that you wouldn’t wish this nightmare on the people you care most about.
If you know that you wouldn’t want to put your friends and the people you love the most in the position that you’re in, then why do you just allow yourself to stay in that position? You understand how bad you have it and yet, you’re doing nothing to improve your current condition.
5. You know that this isn’t the kind of effort that you will be able to sustain.
You know just how overworked you are and you know that all of this effort is leading to nowhere. And to make things worse, you know that this isn’t the kind of effort that you would be able to sustain for too long. You know that you are going to end up destroying yourself if you continue on this path that you’re on.
6. You know that they know that they could do more for you.
And you shouldn’t be making the excuse that they don’t know that they should be doing more for you. There’s a difference there. It would be your fault if you’re just not communicating your needs effectively. But it’s their fault for failing to acknowledge your needs whenever you express them.
7. You know that it would be foolish to think that they are ever going to change.
You can’t place your bets in them at all. You know that you would be losing money if you chose to go all-in in this case. You know that you can’t fully rely on them to change for you because they have never given you any signs or indications that things are going to get better for you. The future always looks bleak with them.
8. You don’t have the time for this.
Honestly, you can’t afford to be wasting your time on things that aren’t worthwhile. You are only given so much time on this earth, and you have to be devoting it to noble and worthwhile ventures. You can’t afford to waste time on people who don’t add value to your life people who don’t make you happy.
9. You fail to see that there are so many other people out there for you.
When you choose to stay with this person, you are essentially depriving yourself of the opportunity to be with people who are more deserving of your love. You are depriving yourself of the chance to be in a real relationship that you could genuinely be happy in the longer you stay in this toxic one-sided romance.
10. You don’t have to feel guilty about being selfish.
If you think that choosing to walk away from a one-sided romance is selfish, then that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel bad about being selfish. It’s understandable for you to want to look out for yourself.
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