Do you have an insecure boyfriend? Insecurities can kill a relationship before it even gets any chance to grow.
New relationships can be a beautiful thing. You’re the center of someone’s world and they want to do nothing other than spend time with you. Love has only just begun to blossom and at that time, you feel as happy as you can be. Now I’m not saying that love has to diminish over time, but it does become a less outwardly and more inwardly i.e. you’re just expected to know that they love you.
They’ll take you out on dates occasionally rather than every other night. No one wants the sparkle of their relationship to dim. They’ll do anything to hold onto it and feel loved forever. Yet, can there be such a thing as too much love? Sadly, yes. I say sadly because it is indeed a bad thing. Too much love can result be suffocating. Having an insecure boyfriend will show you how.
1- He needs constant reassurance:
You two are in a relationship because you confessed your feelings for each other. Thus, you’ve basically told him that you really do like him. However, he needs you to say it over and over again and not in the romantic way you think. He wants you to remind him every single second of every single day that you don’t love anyone but him.
For most people, if their partner isn’t sincere with them, they’ll walk away and never look back. They’ll know that it didn’t end because of them and that’s assurance enough. Yet, an insecure boyfriend would need you to remind him that you love him.
Not because he denies the fact that you aren’t sincere with him, but because they think you’ll change your mind any second. You can’t exactly blame them for this, but they need to understand that this is can drive people apart.
2- He has a lot of unnecessary questions about the men in your life:
Your ex, the guy next door, and your best friend aren’t people you’re attracted to. You’re in a relationship with him, but he wants more. It’ll start off small with him wanting to know why you’re talking to them.
He’ll act like he just asked that as a matter of fact-ly. Then it’ll move on to more unnecessary questions and he’ll change his tone. Like, you’re doing something really wrong. He’ll think that you still have feelings for them or have somehow just developed those feelings while being in a relationship with him.
He’ll think that anyone you talk to is automatically someone you have a crush on. It’ll be a constant annoyance trying to convince him that you aren’t attracted to any of them. What’s worse is the fact that he’ll somehow remember to bring it up during a fight and imply that you’re cheating on him.
3- He gives you no space:
Even if you’re in a relationship, you’re allowed to have a certain limit of personal space. You aren’t obligated to spend every second of your relationship practically glued to them. At the end of the day, not everything is going to revolve around you two and you’ll have to carry on with your life outside of the relationship.
He isn’t willing to accept that. He’ll show up at work or your house unannounced several times. You’ll find it cute the first few times but after a while, it just gets creepy. You’ll barely ever see him with his friends or family, he’ll just be around you. Honestly, it isn’t because he has to be there to look out for you or anything.
He just wants to be there because he’s insecure about where you two stand at the moment. After a petty fight, he’ll show up unannounced in an area where you’ll feel incredibly uncomfortable because of him.
She may have promised to be through it all through thick and thin with him, but she is also not his go-to, always on-call therapist. Insecurities that deeply or negatively affect other people or her especially need the bonafide assistance of a professional, not her attempting to bungle through a solution while being simultaneously romantically tangled with him.