When you first start getting to know someone that you’re romantically interested in, it can be very easy to turn a blind eye to all of the red flags. And you never want that for yourself. You always want to make sure that you maintain 20/20 vision especially when you’re just starting to get to know someone.
You don’t want to get blindsided by bad traits and characteristics when you’re already deep into the relationship. And a lot of people actually understand this. And so they will do their best to keep their eyes open for potential red flags pertaining to their partner’s personality.
However, what a lot of people often fail to do is to spot out the potential red flags regarding a prospective partner’s performance in the bedroom. Remember, having a healthy and active sex life is absolutely vital in determining the longevity and strength of a relationship.
You aren’t necessarily the type of girl who is looking for a one-night stand. You can’t just have one random night in the bedroom with a guy and move on from it regardless of how it made you feel. You are looking to get into a real serious relationship with someone – and that means multiple sexual encounters.
And you want to make sure that you’re actually attaching yourself to someone who is going to be able to satisfy you on a sexual level. Or at the very least, he shouldn’t be so bad to the point where you can’t really help him to be better anymore.
Now, mediocre sexual prowess doesn’t necessarily have to be a deal-breaker in a relationship; especially if sex isn’t all that important to you. It’s all a matter of how much you’re going to prioritize sexual energy and compatibility in your relationship.
If it doesn’t matter much to you, then you can probably get away with having a relationship with someone who isn’t going to be so skilled in the sack. But if sex is a very important determinant for you, then you really need to make sure that you are doing your due diligence before things start to get serious in your relationship.
But how exactly can you tell if he’s going to be bad in bed without sleeping with him? Well, here are a few red flags that you can be on the lookout for:
1. He is a terrible kisser.
Don’t underestimate the significance of kissing when it comes to sex. Keep in mind that most sexual encounters are going to start with a kiss. And when things are off to a sloppy start(no pun intended), it can be very hard to recover from that.
2. He is incapable of depth.
It’ll be hard to have sex with a man who is constantly just focused on how you look. You are going to have trouble burying your insecurities with a partner like that.
3. He is a selfish individual.
A selfish man is only ever going to be concerned with his own needs and his own personal pleasures. He won’t be too invested in trying to meet your needs and expectations in the bedroom. He’s only really ever in it for himself.
4. He is always rushing.
A man who is always rushing in life is likely to be a man who is going to be rushing in the sack. And you don’t want that. You want a sexual partner who is patient enough to do things methodically and comprehensively.
5. He doesn’t really live an active lifestyle.
If he’s not an active kind of guy, then he probably doesn’t have the physical capacity to really please you in the bedroom. Remember that sex is a physical act at its core – and physical fitness can go a long way when having sex.
6. He gets distracted way too easily.
When you’re having sex with someone, you want all of that guy’s focus on you and on what you’re doing. If he’s getting distracted, then he’s going to be giving you a half-hearted effort.
7. He has terrible hygiene.
Why would you want to date a guy with terrible hygiene anyway? Poor grooming is just an indicator of immaturity and irresponsibility. And of course, it can be hard to get intimate with someone who stinks.
8. He isn’t the type of guy who is open to trying new things.
If you’re going to have multiple sexual encounters with someone, you will want diversity and flexibility. You don’t want the same moves and routines over and over again. A little variance and openness to try new things is always a good thing.
9. He brags about his sexual experiences.
He’s insecure about how he is in the sack and he’s trying to talk himself up. But it’s likely that he won’t be able to back up what he says.
10. He isn’t confident about who he is.
Confidence is key, as they say. Confidence plays a huge role in sexual prowess. If you have a man who isn’t confident about who he is, then it is likely that his insecurities are going to get the best of him in the bedroom; and he will find himself unable to perform.
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