Just be reasonable for a second. Take a step back and try to analyze the bigger picture here. For most of your adult life, you’re going to spend a substantial amount of hours at the office doing your job. And that’s going to be true for a lot of people who are working on their careers.
And sometimes, a lot of people can get carried away with pursuing their career goals to the point that they put their own health at risk. But that’s another issue altogether. One of the biggest harmful effects of spending too much time on your career is that it can cause some serious trouble for your home life. You might see a natural decline in the relationship when one or both parties decide to spend too much time on careers and professional goals.
One possible downside of spending too much time at the office is the risk of developing feelings for a coworker. This is something that happens fairly often especially in an office setting where there is always so much pressure and tension. It can be tempting to use an office romance as some kind of means to ease the tensions within the office somewhat. That’s why you shouldn’t think it too farfetched for your partner to actually be engaging in office romances behind your back.
Of course, you don’t want to be known as the crazy and paranoid girlfriend or wife who is always expecting the worst from her man. You don’t want to always be thinking that your man is up to no good. No relationships are ever going to succeed when there is no trust there. You always want to trust that your man will stay faithful and loyal to you. However, that doesn’t mean that you should be reckless all the time.
That doesn’t mean that you have to be completely blind to all the signs if they’re out there for you to see. You never want to be made a fool of especially in the world of love. You never want to be someone who was too dumb to realize that you were being cheated on by the man you loved. That is why you always want to stay vigilant. Keep yourself aware of the signs that your man might be cheating on you with someone from work.
1. He has been working a lot of long hours.
These “long hours” at the office could just be an alibi for him spending long hours with another woman.
2. He doesn’t work WITH you for your relationship.
Instead of working with you to make the relationship last, he starts devoting ALL of his time and energy to his office life instead.
3. He says that he travels a lot for work.
It might be true that he travels a lot for work but it also might not be. He may be using his “trips” as an excuse to go off the grid for a little while.
4. He really dresses up for work.
And you can really tell that it’s not just because he wants to impress his boss or his co-workers. He’s actually dressing up to flirt and be attractive.
5. He doesn’t really open up to you as much as before.
He has stopped opening up about his feelings to you. And it’s probably because he has found a new outlet for the things he wants to get off his chest.
6. He either over-mentions a name from work or he deliberately avoids mentioning that person.
If he’s frequently mentioning a particular girl’s name even when there’s no reason for him to do so, then it might be a little obvious at that point that he’s cheating on you to a certain extent. It’s also true if he deliberately tries to avoid saying her name.
7. You get the love-hate kind of energy between him and this one girl.
There is a really weird love-hate kind of energy that he has with this one girl. It’s almost like a “will they, won’t they” kind of dynamic between these two people.
8. He has developed a very strong emotional connection with someone from work.
If you are suspicious of one person from his office in particular and you notice that they have a strong connection with one another, then you have cause for worry.
9. You hear a lot of gossip from the people he works with.
It’s never good to be hearing gossip about your man at work unless it concerns him eventually getting a raise or a promotion. If people are chattering, then it’s probably because there’s something to worry about.
10. He suddenly suggests changing his place of work.
It’s not uncommon for people to want changes in their careers. However, you should be very suspicious if he demands for such a radical change all too quickly and impulsively.