Cheating. Infidelity. Adultery. These are fairly complicated concepts that are far from being simple. There are many variables that go into cheating in a relationship. Cheating can take its shape in various forms and degrees. There are also a number of various motivating factors that can drive a person to cheating and engaging in infidelity. It can be really hard to spot a cheater in a relationship because a lot of the time, they are so good at just hiding their tracks and making sure that they don’t get caught.
However, if you’re in a relationship with someone who you suspect is cheating on you, it’s not an easy situation to deal with. On the one hand, your gut is telling you that there is some cause for worry. You don’t want to be made a fool of and so you are tempted to confront your partner about how you feel. However, you also don’t want to be seen as the overly paranoid partner in a relationship who makes baseless accusations about cheating and infidelity. What are you supposed to do? How do you get out of this hole that you’re in?
Well, if you’re too afraid to confront your partner outright, then you don’t necessarily have to do so. You don’t have substantial cause just yet. And that’s why you need to up your detective game. Try to be more observant of your partner’s behavior. The truth is that there may be some subtle signs of your partner’s infidelity. And if you just stay vigilant enough, they will be clear as the light of day. You just have to make sure to keep your eyes wide open for the following red flags in your own relationship:
1. They become more interested and adventurous when it comes to sex.
Stereotypically, people tend to think that once someone engages in a sexual relationship with a third-party, they come less invested in their sexual life with their partner. However, that isn’t necessarily the case. It’s likely that the cheating individual is going to take all of the sexual energy and development from the third-party and bring all of these into the actual relationship itself. So a renewed sex life isn’t exactly something that you should be excited about right away. It might mean that your partner is getting substantial fulfilment and development from someone else.
2. They don’t like to share their communication devices with you.
Of course, in the age of social media, it’s s easy as ever to cheat on your partner. With the advent of smartphones and laptops, private communication is such a breeze. However, privacy can still be compromised. That’s why if you find that your partner starts acting unreasonably protective of their communication devices, then you definitely know that something is up. They are definitely trying to hide something from you; and it’s something that they know is going to upset you greatly. And all of that evidence can be found on their gadgets.
3. They will want to chat things up with you more than usual.
This is a common diversion tactic that a lot of cheaters will use on the people they are in relationships with. They will seemingly put their interest in their partners on overdrive. They will act OVERLY interested and invested in their relationships as a way of covering up all the deceit and betrayal that is taking place behind the scenes.
4. They do a lot of things that are seemingly out of the ordinary which don’t coincide with their typical schedule.
What if your partner is taking so many extra hours at work? What if your partner seems to be going on a lot of business trips lately? What if your partner keeps on going home late after some light night drinking with the guys? On an occasional basis, it shouldn’t really be a problem. But when it starts to become a routine, you really start to question the validity of these alibis. Why would your partner be needing to fly out of town all of the time even when they never had to do so in the past? It’s all part of the scheme.
5. They become very sketchy with the handling of their finances.
The thing about affairs is that they rarely ever come cheap. Of course, you’re going to need to spend some cash to book some hotels to be intimate with. You’re going to have to shell out a few bucks to pay for dinners, lunches, and coffees. You’re going to need to break out a few pennies here and there to shower your third-party with gifts and affectionate toys. These things all come at a price. And your partner is going to want to hide these extra expenses from you as much as possible. To add on to that, your partner will not want to commit to doing long-term finances with you; seeing as the relationship isn’t going to last longer than how you might think anyway.
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