Commitment is something that you would always want from the person you’re dating. Naturally, if you’re interested in pushing this relationship to the next level, you are going to require the commitment of your partner as well. It can’t be all your own individual effort. You need to be assured of the fact that you’re with someone who is really serious about going all-in with you.
You might think that your efforts alone would be able to carry your relationship to the finish line. But no. Relationships don’t work like that. You’re going to have to get your partner on board as well. And that’s not always easy. Commitment isn’t necessarily something that you are entitled to. A lot of the time, it’s something that you have to earn. And that’s something that not a lot of people realize.
You must always make a concerted effort to practice good habits in your relationship to present yourself as someone who is worth being committed to. You can’t expect your partner to get serious about being with you if you don’t take yourself seriously either. You can’t expect your partner to take a mature approach to the relationship if you are acting immature yourself.
That is why it’s important that you still practice good habits. It’s important that you are still doing the right things to make sure that your partner doesn’t think ill of you in any way. You don’t want your partner to think that you’re not someone they shouldn’t be committing to. And that’s why you want to be making a point of doing everything possible to make them commit.
1. Just have fun with it in the first parts.
Just keep things casual at first. Have fun with it. go with the flow. Don’t try to be so controlling of everything right away.
2. Don’t push the “DTR” talks.
If he’s not ready to define the relationship just yet, then don’t force it. Let him figure out his feelings for the first part. Allow him to really process everything. If you pressure him, he might just end up running away instead.
Express an interest in his life. Try to make sure that he knows that you are genuinely interested in getting to know him better. The more interest you show in him, then the more comfortable he will be with actually opening up to you.
4. Share the planning responsibilities.
It’s nice when you take the initiative in a relationship. But you can’t be owning up to everything. Allow him to participate. Allow him to make a few emotional investments here and there. It will make him more enticed to actually commit to you.