It’s okay. We understand. You have lots of love within you that you need to share with other people. That’s probably why you got into a relationship in the first place. You want someone to share that copious amount of love with. However, it may get excessive at some point. You may find yourself getting hurt because your love isn’t being reciprocated at the same level. Your selflessness might be the cause of your own misery. How do you know whether you may be love your boyfriend a little too much?
If your generous expression of love worries you, here are some basic signs that you should be looking out for.
1. You Let Him Abuse You
Physical and emotional torment should never be acceptable in any situation, particularly in a relationship. If he’s always hitting you or verbally abusing you, and you continue to just let him to it, then you’re probably loving him a little too much. You love him to the point where you don’t care that he’s actually destroying you in the process.
2. You Tolerate His Poor Grooming
He stinks. His fingernails are dirty. He’s unshaven. His hair is getting a little long and untidy. His clothes are unwashed. And yet, despite all these, you don’t feel compelled to fix any of these. You love him regardless of these poor grooming habits. That’s just sad. Love doesn’t have to mean giving up basic hygiene.
3. You Forgive Him for Infidelities
Girl, if he’s always cheating on you with other women, just break it off. Stop loving him. He doesn’t deserve you at all, and if you find yourself constantly forgiving him, you probably love him a little too much. No one should ever have to endure infidelity. If he makes a mistake once, and you forgive him, that might be fine. But when it’s a series of cases, then you’re just lying to yourself about your relationship. – Continue reading on the next page
4. You Make Excuses for His Poor Character
If he’s constantly being a really bad person to you and those who are around you, then maybe some corrective measures should be made here. Call him out on his bad characteristics and traits. If you can tolerate his bad manners and terrible human conduct, then that’s a sure-fire sign that you really do love him too much.
5. You Find Yourself Giving So Much More than You Receive
This should be a no-brainer. Relationships are a two-way street and the best kinds of relationships always establish harmony and symmetry in their actions. If you always find yourself on the giving end, but never on the receiving ends when it comes to nice things, then you’re probably the one who is loving a little too much. Try to find a man who can reciprocate your love by also giving to you just as much as what you give to him.
6. You’re His Nanny
You clean up after him. You do his laundry. You cook for him. You cut his fingernails. Are you his girlfriend or are you his nanny? It’s okay to care for your boyfriend, but not to the point where you become a professional caretaker. If you’re both mature enough to be a relationship with each other, then you should also be old enough to not require the services of a nanny. You’re not his nanny, you’re his girlfriend.
7. You Don’t Hold Him Accountable for His Faults
If you always find yourself constantly shielding him from blame for any of his faults, then yes, you love him a little too much. We’re all human and we all have our shortcomings. Hold him accountable for any of his faults. There are consequences to whatever faults we have and you shouldn’t be protecting him from these consequences. Be mature about it and recognize that he has occasional failures and pressure him to improve for the sake of you both.В – Continue reading on the next page
8. You Let Him Command You into Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do
We should all be willing to do things for our partners even when we don’t like doing them. That’s a very simple and basic expression of love but there should be a limit to it. It’s very difficult when you offer to run errands for your boyfriend and when you let him bully you into doing things that don’t really help both of you in the long run. A basic example is letting him bully you into any sexual practices that you aren’t entirely comfortable with at all.
9. You Let Him Toy With Your Emotions
There’s no denying that relationships are inherently emotional social practices. However, emotional manipulation shouldn’t be a natural occurrence in any relationship. If you feel that you’re okay with him constantly toying with your feelings and emotions, then yes, you love him a little too much.
10. You Let Him Use Your Money
At some point, money shared between individuals in a relationship should be fine especially when they’re getting to serious stages of engagements and marriages. But when you’re just starting out with that puppy love, and you constantly let him use your hard-earned money for his own selfish desires, that’s not good at all. You’re probably loving him a little more than he deserves.
11. You Allow Him to Break Your Heart
Broken hearts are dangerous. They can break a person. They can destroy you. Now, while disappointments and occasional broken hearts are normal in even the strongest of relationships, they should never be tolerable. If he breaks your heart, don’t let it go uncorrected. Tell him how you feel about it and how you don’ want it to happen again.
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