Don’t waste your time on an “almost relationship”!
It’s one thing to try and get over a breakup from a real relationship. But it’s a separate thing entirely to try and recover from getting your heart broken in an almost relationship. It can sometimes be more difficult to get over a breakup from an almost relationship because you invested so much of yourself into it but you never got to reap any of the benefits. It can be downright disorienting and frustrating to be put in that position. You try so hard to make sense of the situation but you have a difficult time doing so. The reason why it’s so hard for you is because you think that it’s such an unorthodox position to be in. But the truth is that it’s happening to lots of people all over the world nowadays. In this modern age wherein people are more committed to the self than to the relationship, it’s so easy for people to just engage in casual relations and then move on from them without a word.
So don’t fret. You’re not the only person in the world who is going through this emotionally charged situation. You don’t have to feel so alone. In fact, it’s time for you to start picking yourself back up again. It’s time for you to start moving on and getting over. Here are 12 things that you can do to help you get over an almost relationship.
1. Just let go of all your hopes about the relationship.
As depressing as it may sound, you’re going to have to listen to this sound advice: let go of all of your hopes regarding the relationship. The longer you dwell on something that isn’t there, the harder it will be for you to just move on with your life.
2. Forget about all the positives and dwell on the negatives.
A big mistake that a lot of people make when they’re trying to move on from a breakup is when they keep focusing on all the good parts of the relationship. Of course, since the relationship ended, it’s evident that things weren’t perfect. There were some negative aspects of the relationship and you should focus on those.
3. Immerse yourself in your passions.
Focus on yourself. Do all of the things that you’re most passionate about. Devote more time to your favorite hobbies and read your favorite books. Do all the things that you love doing the most in the world.
4. Go to your friends for support.
As the clich goes, that’s what friends are for. They should be there for you during your most trying of times. They should help build you up whenever you’re feeling particularly vulnerable. They are the people you turn to whenever you need to get back on your feet.
5. Talk things out with mom or dad.
As it is with your friends, your parents will also always have your back. They have the wisdom that usually comes attached with age. Turn to them for some advice or even if you just need someone to vent to.
6. Keep in mind that you are not alone.
As hard and as difficult as it is for you to deal with things at the moment, you have to remember that you aren’t alone. There are plenty of people around the world and in history who have gone through the same thing. These same people survived and there isn’t any reason why you won’t be able to get over things either.
7. Start living a fitter and healthier lifestyle.
Again, just start focusing more on yourself and who you are. Try living a healthier lifestyle and start hitting the gym. Divert all of your energy into building your body into a state of absolute fitness. You’d be surprised at how much better you will feel when those endorphins start kicking in.
8. Be thankful for everything you have.
Sure, things may look really bleak and depressing at the moment, but you have to remember that this is only a temporary setback. There are still plenty of things in your life to be happy about and you should never forget to count your blessings.
9. Immerse yourself in your daily routine.
Sometimes, being a mechanical human being has its benefits. When you completely ignore all of your emotions and just go about your routine like a robot, then the easier it will be for you to move on. You will be so focused on what you’re doing and how you go about your day that you won’t have time to sulk and cry.
Don’t stalk him/her on social media. You are only bringing more pain upon yourself by doing so. In fact, it would be a great idea for you to just go on a social media cleanse. Disconnect from the world for a while and just focus on yourself.
11. Find love elsewhere.
Love can be found everywhere. Just because it didn’t work out for you in one particular place doesn’t mean you won’t find it somewhere else.
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