If it feels like it’s too good to be true, then that’s probably because it is. It’s always so exciting and thrilling whenever you start to develop feelings for a person. You’ve just started seeing each other and it’s so amazing as you are both discovering more and more about one another. You develop a real liking to this guy and he seems to always be saying and doing the right things. He seems to know what he’s doing because he’s working his wonders on you. You feel completely helpless to his charms. You feel like you’re really under his spell.
And it all feels like it’s just too good to be true. You feel like you’re stuck in a real fairy tale and you just can’t help but brag of your fantastical life to all of your friends. But then things don’t feel so perfect anymore.It’s always important that you learn the value of patience in love. You can’t always be rushing into things. You can’t be forcing the issue just because you want to skip the process. You have to be patient enough to let love manifest itself in the way that it’s designed to do so.
You have to really take your time when you’re just getting to know someone before you allow yourself to become invested. If you fall in love recklessly, you risk becoming attached to someone who is only going to hurt you and abuse you. You risk becoming attached to a genuine psychopath who only wants to torment you. There is such a phenomenon in love called the “love bomb” which is a technique that is commonly used by psychopaths in relationships to get their victims to trust them and lower their guards.
And if you are perceptive enough, you can automatically tell when someone is love bombing you, and you can use that knowledge as a means to defend yourself.
But what exactly is love bombing?
Well, to put it simply, it’s when a psychopath overwhelms you and overloads your senses by bombarding you with so much love even at the early stage of the relationship. This person knows what he’s doing. He knows what kind of effect he’s making on you. He’s going to flatter you to the point that he actually convinces you that you have fully captivated him; but the truth is that he’s the one who is captivating you. He might be making it seem like you have a hold on his heart but in actuality, it’s him who has a hold on yours.
They’re going to give you all of the ideal situations that you want. They are going to produce the perfect relationship atmosphere; and that’s how they’re going to get you latched on to the hook. And once they get you to become vulnerable towards them, that’s when they’re going to start to reveal their true selves. Once they have you in the palm of their hands, you’re going to be wishing that you took your time in the first place. He’s going to make it so hard for you to escape the hell that he’s going to form for you; and it will be your own fault for letting yourself get so attached to him too early.
So how do you spot a psychopath early on in a relationship?
Well, it’s not that difficult to spot a psychopath so as long as you know what it is you’re supposed to be looking for exactly. If these 4 things apply to your situation with a guy you’re just starting to date, then chances are that he’s a psychopath who is love bombing you.
1. He always expresses himself in the superlatives and hyperboles.
He says that you’re the most amazing, talented, beautiful, and fabulous woman on the face of this earth. He says that you blow his mind. He says that there is no one else like you. It’s always over-the-top even when he barely knows you. Always take what he says with a grain of salt.
2. He is always so quick to point out the things that make you similar.
He is going to want to connect with you as soon as possible. And while this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, you should find it suspicious if the both of you seem to relate on EVERYTHING. No two people are ever alike on every aspect of life.
3. He seems to be everything you could possibly ever ask for.
It’s the “too good to be true” scenario. He’s playing you. He’s just projecting himself as your ideal person even when he’s far from being so.
4. He uses sympathy and guilt as a tool to keep you invested.
He’s going to tell you some tragic story to get you on his side. He is going to want you to take pity on him early in your relationship. He is going to present himself as the victim so that you won’t take notice when he starts to victimize you instead.